#79

Possibly, although I think this is a really tough one because dance, by its nature, can form part of a ‘mating call’, deep within the reptilian brain of the dancer and/ or the person watching (believe me, if you’ve ever seen LegBop™ you’ll know what I mean). :joy::rofl:

I think that dancing in a sexual way can be really gratifying for the dancer, but it is NOT an invitation to be letched over, touched, leered at or cat-called, and in an environment where you are less likely to have somebody who is attracted to your sex there watching, it is easier to dance a little more freely… If that makes sense.

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#80

Yeah that makes a lot of sense - I realise it’d be pointless/fruitless/sad to try and take that sexual element away from dancing…but, at least within the culture that I’ve seen, I can recognise that men don’t have a particularly “consensual” view of what that dancing means.

There was a story a year or so ago about a festival in Sweden that was for non-males only. I should to find out if it ever went ahead…or is still in the pipeline

#81

Happy to change the thread title but yes not quite sure what would be the best one to be honest.

#82

Have you seen this has now been immortalised on DiS’s very own record label?

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#83

Guilty :wink:

@anon32406580 FAO
Was at a stag/hen do the weekend before last and an amateur actor who was there coerced everyone into a series of acting icebreakers (yeah I know). Anyway, one of them was you had to say your name and do a short dance everyone had to then copy. As it got round to me, my wife shouted across the circle that I should “leg bop”, which resulted in 20 people copying my own interpretation of the hallowed tradition :smiley:

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#84

Can someone please show me a video example of the Leg Bop? Or failing that, describe it?

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#85

Writing about leg bop is like making music about architecture

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#86

:grinning:

#87

That’s my issue with it. I LOVE dad dancing to tunes with my mates on the cheese floor at Moomoos and I’d love to get down with my nasty self but I feel super uncomfortable about it because of men! It’s extremely rare I get any attention in a club but because I’ve seen too much shit behaviour I still don’t want to ‘encourage’ it.

#88

I know it isn’t Thursday, but I’ve got a filthy (anon) poll for you that ties in with this thread.

Straight men of DiS, do you moan during sex?

  • I keep pretty much silent
  • I let out the odd ‘fuck’ or light moan
  • I moan but not as much as the lady
  • I moan as much as the lady
  • Lady, you ain’t got nothing on me

0 voters

My tv remarked recently that men rarely moan or give any audible indication that they’re enjoying sex. I’ve spent my life letting out the odd ‘fuck’ or other expletive when it’s been REALLY good, but largely suppress everything else. Presumably because I’ve learned through media that it isn’t manly to be audible. I was suppressing it subconsciously, to the point where I only really noticed when it was pointed out.

#89

And another for those that picked the first two options

  • I deliberately try to stifle moans
  • I think I have subconsciously been stifling moans
  • I don’t think I get as much pleasure from sex as a woman so feel no urge to moan

0 voters

#90

And finally, because for some reason this really interests me.

For those that are quiet, why?

  • It is too feminine to be loud
  • I fear my other half would judge me
  • I’m too busy concentrating to enjoy it
  • Other

0 voters

#91

I really don’t give a shit. Loud n proud

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#92

Still trying to think of a better thread title…

#93

I’ve now switched to this model and it’s very liberating. Still feel a bit daft but I’ll work on it.

#94

Can “just am” be an option?

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#95

Not getting at you specifically here, but ‘just am’ tends to be a stock response by men to avoid really considering why they ‘are’, because it might be a little uncomfortable.

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#96

“Because I watch Match Of The Day over her shoulder”

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#97

I don’t know why someone would be uncomfortable being loud if they naturally were?

#98

I dunno.
There may be practical reasons for guys not wanting to make any noise (being overheard by housemates, kids etc) and some might carry these habits through so that they stay quieter in later life.
From a ‘masculinity’ point of view, I guess the point being made is that it is a display of loss of control and, in some quarters, that is not a ‘manly’ thing

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