A thread to discuss masculinity

Guilty :wink:

@anon32406580 FAO
Was at a stag/hen do the weekend before last and an amateur actor who was there coerced everyone into a series of acting icebreakers (yeah I know). Anyway, one of them was you had to say your name and do a short dance everyone had to then copy. As it got round to me, my wife shouted across the circle that I should ā€œleg bopā€, which resulted in 20 people copying my own interpretation of the hallowed tradition :smiley:

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Can someone please show me a video example of the Leg Bop? Or failing that, describe it?

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Writing about leg bop is like making music about architecture

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:grinning:

Thatā€™s my issue with it. I LOVE dad dancing to tunes with my mates on the cheese floor at Moomoos and Iā€™d love to get down with my nasty self but I feel super uncomfortable about it because of men! Itā€™s extremely rare I get any attention in a club but because Iā€™ve seen too much shit behaviour I still donā€™t want to ā€˜encourageā€™ it.

I know it isnā€™t Thursday, but Iā€™ve got a filthy (anon) poll for you that ties in with this thread.

Straight men of DiS, do you moan during sex?

  • I keep pretty much silent
  • I let out the odd ā€˜fuckā€™ or light moan
  • I moan but not as much as the lady
  • I moan as much as the lady
  • Lady, you ainā€™t got nothing on me

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My tv remarked recently that men rarely moan or give any audible indication that theyā€™re enjoying sex. Iā€™ve spent my life letting out the odd ā€˜fuckā€™ or other expletive when itā€™s been REALLY good, but largely suppress everything else. Presumably because Iā€™ve learned through media that it isnā€™t manly to be audible. I was suppressing it subconsciously, to the point where I only really noticed when it was pointed out.

And another for those that picked the first two options

  • I deliberately try to stifle moans
  • I think I have subconsciously been stifling moans
  • I donā€™t think I get as much pleasure from sex as a woman so feel no urge to moan

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And finally, because for some reason this really interests me.

For those that are quiet, why?

  • It is too feminine to be loud
  • I fear my other half would judge me
  • Iā€™m too busy concentrating to enjoy it
  • Other

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I really donā€™t give a shit. Loud n proud

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Still trying to think of a better thread titleā€¦

Iā€™ve now switched to this model and itā€™s very liberating. Still feel a bit daft but Iā€™ll work on it.

Can ā€œjust amā€ be an option?

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Not getting at you specifically here, but ā€˜just amā€™ tends to be a stock response by men to avoid really considering why they ā€˜areā€™, because it might be a little uncomfortable.

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ā€œBecause I watch Match Of The Day over her shoulderā€

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I donā€™t know why someone would be uncomfortable being loud if they naturally were?

I dunno.
There may be practical reasons for guys not wanting to make any noise (being overheard by housemates, kids etc) and some might carry these habits through so that they stay quieter in later life.
From a ā€˜masculinityā€™ point of view, I guess the point being made is that it is a display of loss of control and, in some quarters, that is not a ā€˜manlyā€™ thing

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Why have you written the answers so that the only reason for having no desire to moan is due to not enjoying it as much? Iā€™ve never moaned, no matter how much Iā€™m enjoying it, and for a long time wondered if people who did were putting it on conscously.

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Never really psychoanalysed it really but i thought being overly loud so that your housemates knew you were having sex would be seen as more manly :man_shrugging:

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Nah, but having the woman be louder would be.

On this topic, it wasnā€™t until recently that I realised the extent to which when people say ā€œI heard them having sexā€ theyā€™re generally saying ā€œI heard herā€ having sex.

A few nights ago, i was woken up by a dude somehwere in my apartment building (or maybe two guys, genuinely hard to tell) having A Very Lovely Time Indeed. and it made me realise that literally every other time Iā€™ve heard people at it, itā€™s been the lady (or the bed knocking against the wall etc)

So maybe this is because of my orientation, or because Iā€™ve been subconsciouly programmed by porn or whatever, but I found it infinitely more annoying and grim to hear a bloke grunting and groaning and yelling ā€œfuckā€ then I ever have when a housemateā€™s girlfriend has been over-enthusiastic. i mean he was REALLY going for it

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