@anon32406580 FAO
Was at a stag/hen do the weekend before last and an amateur actor who was there coerced everyone into a series of acting icebreakers (yeah I know). Anyway, one of them was you had to say your name and do a short dance everyone had to then copy. As it got round to me, my wife shouted across the circle that I should āleg bopā, which resulted in 20 people copying my own interpretation of the hallowed tradition
Thatās my issue with it. I LOVE dad dancing to tunes with my mates on the cheese floor at Moomoos and Iād love to get down with my nasty self but I feel super uncomfortable about it because of men! Itās extremely rare I get any attention in a club but because Iāve seen too much shit behaviour I still donāt want to āencourageā it.
I know it isnāt Thursday, but Iāve got a filthy (anon) poll for you that ties in with this thread.
Straight men of DiS, do you moan during sex?
I keep pretty much silent
I let out the odd āfuckā or light moan
I moan but not as much as the lady
I moan as much as the lady
Lady, you aināt got nothing on me
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My tv remarked recently that men rarely moan or give any audible indication that theyāre enjoying sex. Iāve spent my life letting out the odd āfuckā or other expletive when itās been REALLY good, but largely suppress everything else. Presumably because Iāve learned through media that it isnāt manly to be audible. I was suppressing it subconsciously, to the point where I only really noticed when it was pointed out.
Not getting at you specifically here, but ājust amā tends to be a stock response by men to avoid really considering why they āareā, because it might be a little uncomfortable.
I dunno.
There may be practical reasons for guys not wanting to make any noise (being overheard by housemates, kids etc) and some might carry these habits through so that they stay quieter in later life.
From a āmasculinityā point of view, I guess the point being made is that it is a display of loss of control and, in some quarters, that is not a āmanlyā thing
Why have you written the answers so that the only reason for having no desire to moan is due to not enjoying it as much? Iāve never moaned, no matter how much Iām enjoying it, and for a long time wondered if people who did were putting it on conscously.
On this topic, it wasnāt until recently that I realised the extent to which when people say āI heard them having sexā theyāre generally saying āI heard herā having sex.
A few nights ago, i was woken up by a dude somehwere in my apartment building (or maybe two guys, genuinely hard to tell) having A Very Lovely Time Indeed. and it made me realise that literally every other time Iāve heard people at it, itās been the lady (or the bed knocking against the wall etc)
So maybe this is because of my orientation, or because Iāve been subconsciouly programmed by porn or whatever, but I found it infinitely more annoying and grim to hear a bloke grunting and groaning and yelling āfuckā then I ever have when a housemateās girlfriend has been over-enthusiastic. i mean he was REALLY going for it