#38

Can be amazing though too. Some of my best friends/now best friends came to stay as strangers.

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#39

Thankfully the two bedrooms are at complete opposite sides of the flat though. Was fine last time she had someone staying.

#40

Maybe this one’s a shrieker. You just don’t know until it happens.

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#41

Thanks Epimer

#42

I’m here to help.

#44

going to go home now. hopefully i’ll have the place to myself fingers crossed

#46

I think I might be like that, because I get really restless without social contact, and am prone to over sharing in some contexts, I just simply don’t know how to talk to people face to face. Whenever I fill out personality tests and stuff I find the questions difficult to answer because I know what I am like, but it’s not like I want to be like that

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#47

Used to take a ‘sick’ day occasionally and not tell anyone (other than work). I would go to the library or the shops and just have a wonder. It was lovely no time constraints, no phone calls just pure self indulgence!

#48

Yeah I take forever taking photos, drawing stuff, walking in an aimless loop round back streets, and find the company of others distracting while I’m doing it. Same with exhibitions, galleries etc, there are only a few select friends I can bear to go with.

I can put out quite a burst of social energy when I feel like it and be quite chatty/just interested in people in general , which can make people think I’m much much more extroverted than I actually am, but it’s incredibly draining.

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#49

I’m outgoing but at the same time I’m a hyper-introvert. I can’t stand not going out on a Friday night but I only feel truly comfortable in my skin when I’m alone. Time with other people can be good or bad, it just it depends on who those people are. It’s not binary.

#50

I love alone time but I always totally waste it.

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#51

I like travelling alone, but otherwise apart from a quiet hour or two in the evening when everyone else is in bed, i’m not really too bothered. I like the company of others even when just chilling out

#53

We should get married.

Then live in different houses and rarely speak.

#57

yeah i do get that sometimes. like start to feel physically trapped if someone talks to me for too long, or interrupt without really realising. idk i have trouble figuring out what’s adhd and what’s normal high irritability levels, also think i have some traits on the autism spectrum

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#60

Innit :disappointed:

#61

yeah i never really talk to people about this stuff but glad i kind of half told my mum, think she sees me as less of a waste of space now

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#64

that sounds bad :frowning: good luck

#65

not heard it called that before

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#66

a long time ago someone told me that a true friend is someone with whom there are no awkward silences

i’ve thought about that every time there’s a silence with someone that’s not awkward AND when it is awkward haha

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#67

This is me to a T. I’m sure I have some form of ADHD.

I’m terrible at waiting for people finish talking and want to cut in and interrupt and have to force myself. I also get bored of conversations and feel stuck and want to get out of it.

I struggle to focus and keep motivated and love my alone time. But if I have a project I enjoy or is challenging I get obsessed and over do it. But something standard and easy I can’t focus on.

Socially I prefer just being with one or two people at a time,then I’m in my element and can talk and be relaxed. Bigger groups I get anxious and can’t handle it, when I do I feel the need to be social when all I want to do is leave and be alone. In such circumstances I repeat things constantly which must be really annoying and weird.

As a kid at junior school I was a massive day dreamer and struggled and needed speach therapy. A teacher told my mum in front of me that I’d never amount to anything in my life my mum nearly hit her.

At senior school I got better, was great with computers and maths. Went to University did pretty well and got a decent job. My mum saw that old teacher years later, she finally told her about me and what she thought of her.

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