#88

Hey hey. I’m a huge advocate of therapy and would happily say that there is no line to be crossed in terms of symptoms before seeking it out. Fuck it, everyone could do with just being listened to sometimes…but if you get to a point when you think it might be of help then really why not?

Going to be very un-DiS about this now, I went private because I had completely fallen apart by the time I started to let people in and waiting for the free service was going to lose us a lot of money in wages but you’ve been brave enough to confront this stuff now which is awesome. I know this is super privileged but 10 sessions of therapy at £110 each, safe in the knowledge that I can go and see my doc again (first session in 2 1/2 years just booked in fact) is incomparable to the good it did me.

I would say it saved my life at this point but would also be keen to stress that everyone’s experience is different. You could also self teach - this book is indispensable to me and could teach you huge amounts of the stuff that talking based therapy will cover:

Big up. Talking takes bravery and we’re all here when you need us.

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#89

I’m constantly worrying and it’s getting worse with time. I think the two biggest factors as to why are having met my wife (always afraid something bad is going to happen to her) and Trump getting elected (I can’t imagine things ever getting better - it feels like we’re far past the point of no return in every sense and that we’re headed towards a climate change induced apocalyptic nightmare). I don’t understand people who aren’t worried about Trump and Republicans, they feel of a different species I can’t relate to.

Having left my job to start a very, very, very small one-person business has produced a lot of worry - not because of the drastic reduction in income but because all of my income is now self-reported as opposed to being on a W-2, so I constantly feel as if I’m going to be audited or challenged with regards to taxes or health care. I’m hoping this is irrational.

Money is a major worry for me in general - I deprive myself of everything and try to cling to every cent I can because a) I equate it to time trapped at my old job and b) I don’t ever, ever, ever want to have to go back to my old job or any job in an office or back to school. Spending anything other than the absolute bare minimum on myself sends me down a money guilt / worry spiral. I always feel like a major money loss event is around the corner - every time I check the mail I’m afraid there’s going to be some kind of notice there.

There’s basically worry in every aspect of my life, but what’s strange is that when I had a “career” I never worried about it at all - I quietly did my work but never cared about promotions or raises or success of projects or office politics or anything. From my first day I knew it was all BS and nothing to get wound up about and never got stressed about it (aside from the idea of being trapped there forever).

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#90

There was also a time I was worried that people here would notice I post about The Smashing Pumpkins a lot. I told myself it was in my head.

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#91

Yes but I think it’s a good thing overall. Teaches you to be cautious about things and take action, since a lot of shit actually can go wrong without a lot of people realising. Sometimes I think things are bad now but if I didn’t worry they’d probably be even worse.

#92

I can tell David Cameron is someone who doesn’t worry much, look where the fuck that got him.

#93

think he’s doing quite well

#94

Oh man. Going to worry about this all night now. And I put those shelves up over 18 months ago!

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#95

If going down in history as worst PM ever isn’t of too much concern to him.

But that is the sort of thing I do worry about, being known for being the ‘worst’ (or even ‘2nd best’) at something.

#97

Oh I hope not!

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#98

don’t think the people he cares about will view him that way and I doubt he gives a flying fuck what anybody else thinks.

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#99

Probably. I should’ve said look where that got us rather than him.

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#100

not having a pop at you btw, sorry if that came across as snarky.

#101

oh no not at all

#102

Had some therapy for this about 8 years ago and turns out it was down to having a very disfunctuonal family as a kid (big arguments between my parents and grandparents and my parents splitting up for 3 years when I was 11), family being impoverished to the extent that I had to live with grandparents for a while, and a mother that has been reminding me that I’d be on the streets if I didn’t work hard at school from a very early age.

Packed it in shortly after all that came out.

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#104

Been worrying that I sound like a dick based on what I wrote further up thread :smiley: Haha. YAAAAY.

#105

have you found it easier to deal with since these realisations?

#106

you definitely don’t

#107

A bit. I would get anxious to the point of being catatonic at some points, but I haven’t had an ‘episode’ for about 5 years now. Put that down to having gone through it before and knowing that there’s light at the end of the tunnel, and to avoid situations that I know will fuck me up. Haven’t had a proper relationship in that time of course, but casually seeing people seems to be the way to go for now at least.

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#108

Also medication. Coming off it now, and slowly feeling the benefits of doing so.

#109

ah I’m happy for you that you’ve found good coping strategies and ways to avoid it.

Good reason to believe that it will continue to get easier for you in the future :slight_smile:

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