#43

My worrying splits into 2 categories

  • relatively inconsequential things like something I own not working, or someone not getting back to me about something. Annoyingly these worries can become all consuming when they really shouldn’t be. I do not currently have a decent strategy for dealing with these.

  • bigger worries about my life, where it’s going etc. I can normally push these away by having a “what;s the worse that could happen” word with myself, and realising that my life is incredibly privileged compared to most and that everything will probably work out one way or another

the issues for me start if I have multiple things to worry about all at once. Thats when my stupid brain can’t cope anymore and the anxiety becomes overwhelming, Having a good run of it at the moment though, hope it continues for a while

#44

that sounds like a nice way to be tbh

#45

Hey Bam, I am a worrier. Its mostly about what other people are thinking/feeling in response to me saying no to doing things or worrying that people will have misunderstood me or taken something I’ve said the wrong way. It is exhausting. Blaaaah.

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#47

inbuilt desire to please other people?

That can be a rough and sometimes unachievable :frowning:

Try not to blame yourself!

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#48

everyone’s life is a struggle in some way or another, you have to manage what you can and what seems reasonable and constructive for you. Don’t feel bad about it.

#49

I am a worrier. I come from a long line of worriers, who worried, or continue to worry.

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#50

point 1 is like a fav. Kozelek track of mine about him worrying obsessively about the lavender in his garden dying. When I’m stressed a lot I will worry or obsess over little things like how much housework needs doing or things breaking like you say.

#51

p.s. thanks everyone for your honest and helpful responses in this thread!

#52

this would only please me as I dislike the smell of lavender.

#54

worry a lot about the small stuff cos anxiety but probs don’t worry enough about the big stuff cos i’m privileged I guess

#55

every second of the day

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#56

If it helps ease your mind even a tiny bit, I would like to assure you that you’ve never offended or upset me.

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#57

I do quite like the weird internal joke with my worrying whereby, if I visualise something going horribly wrong, I might often add to that by imagining some peripheral item spontaneously and inexplicably catching fire

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#58

I’m not sure it’s that. I don’t know :woman_shrugging:

#59

no, it’s ok I relate to a lot of this.

I feel like a big failure too, I had really good grades at school, everyone in my family kind of treated me/assumed I was the smartest in the family, I’ve done nothing with my life and now am long-term unemployed. Felt like I was good at music but really was chasing an empty dream and it’s cost me a lot. Depression since about 12 or 13 has been a big struggle.

These are just thoughts too though, I’m sure my friends mustn’t see me this way and some folks on here have praised my music like I have a genuine talent so maybe I can try to search for a new perspective to give myself some self-esteem and meaning. Sometimes I can be funny or happy and helpful to others. This is true for you too! You are often seeming very positive and caring on here, always happy to engage with people and lend a sympathetic ear in the mental health thread.

You’ll have some better days soon :slight_smile:

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#60

Haha, thanks saps!! That’s good to know.

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#61

please don’t worry about what any of us on here think, we all think you’re rad!

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#62

just listen to the FFVII underwater theme when you start to worry about stuff. It’s very soothing

#63

Yeah so much of it is about getting things in proportion. This I struggle with as a pathological over-thinker.

#64

Yeah, and I’m pretty prone to catastrophising. I try to rationalise that away, and it helps some of the time, but of course worry is often irrational so it doesn’t always work.

My other tool is having hobbies that I can obsess over, to distract me from worry loops. So right now instead of worrying about all the things that could go wrong with house stuff that is completely out of my control, I’m worrying about taking the wrong Netrunner decks to Nationals this weekend and losing loads of games and confirming to everyone that knows me that I’m actually shit at this thing I’m passionate about and that my past successes have been complete flukes.

Hmm.

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