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#214

It’s since humans became fully upright - it reduces the pelvic gap, meaning babies have to be born smaller/at an earlier stage of development than other mammals…

#215

Would you say that we should stop being fully upright?

#216

Already there m9 :sunglasses:

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#219

Tell that to Piers Morgan m9

#220

I have no desire to communicate with that man.

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#221

CBAbies at the minute but would like to have a baby one day.

So many people have told me “there’s never a right time to have a baby, you just have to go for it and it all works itself out”, but the same people tell me I shouldn’t get a dog as it’s a big commitment :thinking:

#222

Tbf, they’re right on both counts

#223

I know, it’s very annoying :triumph:

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#226

It’s probably because your relationships completely change once you’re a parent.

You’ll have a new set of friends if you’ve done NCT, who are all going through the same thing at the same time as you - they’ll be interested in seeing your baby. Your relationship with your family changes - other parents, and grandparents bloody love kids. And your friends who’ve had kids already, who you think have drifted away, but actually they’ve been working hard at their own lives and doing the best they can - suddenly they have a way to reconnect with you too.

But your old friends - those who think like you do at the moment - get more distant, because all you have to share is “mundane” stuff, but your new friends are your new life now, and they’ll be the ones who’ll be by your side if you need them for the next few years.

My instagram feed is littered with pics of Jimbo, and I’m not going to change that just for fear that someone thinks that it might not be very interesting. Going on the number of likes, he’s more interesting that craft beer or photos of indie bands.

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#227

now if you could get a photo of him drinking a craft beer whilst wearing a band t-shirt you’d have the perfect photo ! think of the likes !!

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#228

You jest, but my top reply on Dis is last week’s selfie of the pair of us wearing matching band tees!

He does like a trip to the pub too (where we buy him an apple juice), so I’ll try and get more pics of him with a beer in front of him.

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#229

Yes, this happened to us a bit. Well, the ones without kids anyway. Spot on about friends who were already parents - did make me realise that I probably wasn’t a very understanding mate. I try not to let friendships totally drift though. Hang out with people from NCT and some of the Dads from my son’s nursery and I’d definitely think of them as friends, but they’re not my Day Ones.

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#230

I mean this is how long it takes me to leave the house and i’m 30 years old :laughing:

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#231

Change the 1 to a 3 and you describe me tbf.

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#232

As an owner of both dogs and children, I’d definitely say get a dog.

(massive safety wink, obviously)

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#233

I used to think that until I grew a toddler.

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#234

They are robust little dudes. My new wee nipper was a quarter of a normal babies size and if you put most adults through half of the procedures etc that he’s been through most of ‘em wouldn’t make it!

#235

Re the whole maternity/paternity leave loneliness/blues situation I would say that it very much depends where you live and how able you are to sort out things to do during the day.

I live in a fair sized town and every day of the week there would be something (even if it was a pretty tedious something) you could do with a baby. Monday it’s bounce and rhyme in the library. cool. Tuesday it’s baby-gym. Fine. Weds would be something else.

And sometimes I’d go to these things and sit there with my baby and think ‘what’s the point? she’s barely able to clap her hands voluntarily, why am I taking her to a music group’ but the sociability and having something to leave the house for every day means that they get to meet other babies and you get to see and interact with other adults (even if a lot of it is baby-chat!)

I have known parents who’ve basically stayed at home with the baby and gone staring mad within a few weeks. Get out every day, no matter how long it takes to get each of the kids’ limbs into the right bit of clothing.

#236

Making faces at babies in supermarket queues or on the tube ranks right up the top of my list of fun things. Sticking a tongue out never fails. Babies think tongues are the funniest thing in the universe.

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