Being offered a cup of tea (rolling)


#1

non-work offering only.

it’s also okay if they also offered you a coffee.


last week, when I was getting my passport application countersigned at my friends’ flat, I was offered a cup of tea or coffee. actually opted for the latter because they had nice coffee in. Twixes all round, putting the level of hospitality up a level.

now you


#2

I don’t drink either but have drunk coffee if it feels like they’ll like me more if I do.


#3

have you done this recently?

this is a valid response to being offered tea or coffee as people like being nice and hospitable and probably feel a tiny bit perturbed if they can’t make you the tea or coffee.


#4

I don’t drink either and people just can’t handle it. I lived with some people for a month there and despite me telling them so on the first day and that they didn’t ever need to offer me a drink they just couldn’t help themselves.

Most people react like you’re telling them the most shocking thing they’ve ever heard.


#5

Don’t tend to have milk in the house much anymore which makes it very awkward when someone comes round. E-on came to install a smart meter earlier so I got a one pinter in in preparation, he had his coffee black, would you believe


#6

I can imagine some mums feeling a bit lost if you were at their house and declined a tea or coffee and all future offers of tea or coffee


#7

Maybe about six months ago. Some man was really friendly and was like “hey ____ get him a drink! what do you want” so I hit him with a “black coffee, please” and then drank it as if I liked it. We had a good chat over coffee which i think is a life trope isn’t it?


#8

at least he accepted the offer, Aggpass.

  • did you offer any biscuits?
  • did you also have a cup at the same time?
  • did you have a bit of a chat over the coffee?

#9

(The coffee, like all coffee was gross though)


#10

I have a friend who doesn’t drink either or alcohol, I feel like a right bastard when I make myself a cuppa at his house


#11

A bit of a minefield. Potential for poorly prepared drinks with both options. If there is ‘proper’ coffee (i.e. made with ground coffee) I will go for that otherwise it will be tea. I always state ‘strong, just a little bit of milk’ and hope for the best


#12

No biscuits offered
I also had a black coffee
I had to join a webex so minimal chat


#13

you’d better sort this out for Sheffield meat vol. ii


#14

We’ve got plenty of yoghurt in


#15

I’ve done that quite a bit in my life because I used to get invited to lots of houses, being that I’m very lovely, but I also used to be very fussy.

this is more a childhood thing, though, and not really a tea or coffee thing. I think it’s more a “being invited round for food tea and not liking the food” thing.


#16

Depends how long I’m staying, but will happily opt for either.

Will always offer guest a drink at our house - but we never have sugar in.


#17

always weird when somebody has no tea components in their house.

making yourself a cup is fine, although it does feel weird to not make one for anyone else. I can relate to that, Bam.


#18

I think it’s okay to be a bit exacting with your beverage requirements. they really should be asking. it’s all about communication.


#19

Do you stock things that nobody in the house likes, because they are common things for guests to want

  • Yes
  • No
  • We like all the standard options so have them in anyway

0 voters


#20

this reminds me, really need to get some instant coffee which isn’t decaf