Went for drink with some old friends one of whom is sort of an ex- best friend who I had to estrange because of her unreasonably high expectations of friendship and demanding selfishness. Anyway at one point in the night we were discussing Weinstein etc and then went on to talk about how she’s fallen out with her mum because her mum won’t do this for her and won’t do that for her etc etc. The Weinstein stuff reminded me of a time when we were living together and the landlord grabbed my boob and tried to kiss me when I was on my own with him, the next time he came I asked her to promise me she wouldn’t leave me on my own with him and then 5 minutes in she went off to the the kitchen while we were in the living room, I totally shit myself and had to awkwardly get up and run after her and I just couldn’t believe she done that when I’d asked her to stay with me. I never said anything to her about it but I always wondered wtf was that about.
She was talking about how her mum let her down and how people just try and drag you down and I said sometimes people unintentionally let you down because something doesn’t seem as important to them as it is to you and you’ve just got to let it go and say well I’ve probably done it too and she said ‘I never do that’ and I said well actually! and told her the story and I said I never said anything to you because I knew it was unintentional.
She looked really shocked and said I can’t remember that at all and I said that’s my point, maybe your mum didn’t think she was doing anything that bad and then she gasped and said…omg but no actually see how you’re blaming me for something he did! You’re making me responsible for that man assaulting you!
I was just like huh? And was totally lost for words. Is that what I was doing?