#286

impossible to permaban someone innit? people just register for new accounts.

I’m fairly certain the burnley weirdo is back under a new bizzaro persona.

#287

I appreciate that. I think a big part of it for me is learning that “feminism” (or whatever) isn’t some sort of badge we men wear for praise. We should just see we can contribute to making things better for others, and do what we can to achieve that.

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#288

Make people behave like decent human beings.

You dated a racist. His behaviour is not your fault or responsibiltity, he’s a grown man who knows exactly what he’s doing, but if you’re guilty about it, well that guilt is on you.

#289

Do you feel you’re acting like a decent human being in this exchange?

#290

So I’m not a decent human being? Why am I being targeted here?

It’s funny how you’re trying to make people behave like decent human beings whilst not exactly being the most shining example yourself.

I sincerely apologized to you earlier, which you have completely ignored and decided to send that shit to me and try to wind me up. How is your behaviour any better?

#291

No, I’m saying that I don’t want people to feel they can get away with posting racism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia or other kinds of bigotry, and that people who have been on this site for a long time have to face up to the fact it was a really nasty place not very long ago. This is a pretty reasonable

But let’s lay into me again because I’m not being a good, sweet girl.

#293

Just my personal opinion, but I think the least that could be done is that the odd individual who’ve proven themselves to repeatedly be unable to behave in a reasonable way is given an effective life ban (i.e. until say 31st-Dec-2299) and if they’re found to open an alias, that account is treated in the same way.

As I say, just my own view though.

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#294

Could have sworn that was done to a different user.

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#295

And I’m saying that your ex did and continues to say lots of really bigoted and nasty things. You didn’t say them, and it’s not your responsibility to stop him. He’s a grown man who needs to take responsibility for himself.

However the way you replied came across as “stop talking about him being a racist, because he’s my ex” which makes you look like you’re defending him.

Even if he was nice to you, it doesn’t change how he treated others.

#296

Give some examples where she isn’t?

#297

Sorry?

#298

well yes, absolutely so.

Requires very precise moderation though, and I suppose there’s always a chance it could be a new user.

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#299

Possibly - I vaguely remember someone getting something like that a few months ago. And to be clear, I’m not trying to get at the mods here - it’s a tough job, probably not something I’m cut out for, and I’m generally a fan of light touch modding and users self-policing where possible, it’s just for me I think on occasion a harder stick should have come out earlier and since Em brought that account up, I thought it was worth mentioning.

#300

The source of the joke was that CG was planning on coming to my mate’s gig. I told him to fuck off because we don’t want or tolerate racists in our space. Instead of replying he posted my message on here for people to mock. Hilarious start to an injoke huh?

#301

Ahh ok I didn’t get the origin of that joke, sorry.

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#302

You do not have the right to say anything about one of my personal relationships. That is a personal attack on me and me only. I did not defend him in the slightest. You’re assuming you know better than I do and I should know if I was in a relationship with a racist or not.

And you can’t use this trope every time someone disagrees with something you said. I’m calling you out on this bullshit cause you’re actually being a prick, nothing to do with you being a “good girl”

You are making this a nasty place to be by making absolutely everyone, including me who HAS apologized to you, i’ll say for the 5th time with absolutely no acknowledgement, prove that we’re worthy of posting here.

This is unbelievable.

If you have issues with people on this forum, tag them, say what they did. You’re hiding by being vague and antagonizing everybody. What do you want?

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#303

There’s actually quite a few of the stupid injokes that people use here to make it feel cliquey that are rooted in unpleasant things like that. Who cares when it gives you an injoke huh?

#304

All you have to do to be “worthy” is not post bigoted content, and not be an apologist for people who do.

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#305

I think people do care, but just aren’t aware of a lot of this stuff. Like someone said up thread, we all need to take responsibility to call this shit out. Can’t just rely on you and a few others prominent posters.

#306

I meant the people who coin the joke, knowing the original context. Which then gets picked up as a silly joke with no context by other people and keeps going.

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