Our eldest (N) is 4 and the youngest (O) is a year and a bit. To be honest I can cope fairly well with most stuff N throws at me these days - she’s a bit of a drama queen, but has always loved stories, films and just sitting creating play worlds with whatever toys are in front of her - and so there’s always been some breathing space. We’re trying to introduce a time out spot for some of her excesses currently, but she generally has good insight once she calms down after a tantrum. So the management for me is usually a case of doing something silly/mixing up words to a song or programme she likes and letting her correct me to dissipate the red mist and then talking through what happened when she’s calm enough.
O on the other hand is really fiery - doesn’t want to be cuddled/settle on you for more than about 10 seconds at a time, has more interest in everything that’s not a toy than anything that is, just wants to roam around and sees any closed door or stair gate as an affront to her right to roam. Most of the noise she makes is the baby equivalent of “I AM SO PISSED OFF RIGHT NOW!!!” The fucking jumparoo which has done great for the pair of them and we were so close to selling got one of the solid plastic activities ripped off it by her recently leaving a load of jagged plastic. Fortunately she’s since ripped out the jagged plastic too, so it’s now safe again!
She’s like the Raptors in Jurassic Park constantly stress testing everything looking for weaknesses in our defences. We love her immensely of course, but she’s not an entry level baby, so glad she arrived second…
Thought we’d nailed sleep with her over the last couple of minths, but tried everything last night - controlled crying, lying next to her, co-sleeping, calpol. In the end I just took her downstairs, put Netflix on and let her wriggle on me until she finally passed out.
How old is yours? I find the above strategy for managing rage works pretty well, so maybe worth trying if you haven’t already. Don’t want to tell you how to suck eggs.