Currently have a pretty good thing going of counting to five and saying R has to do something by the time I have finished counting, don’t even have to say there is a consequence if he doesn’t comply. BUT I forgot that this is the solution to a lot of things and hardly remember to do it, and I have to be incredibly specific with what I ask him as he will do the absolute bare minimum to fulfill the request - had to do like five counts yesterday to get him away from stropping in the hall way to get him to strop in the middle of the front room instead.
Using taking away a toy as a way to try get him out of specific bad behaviours, like trying to get him to stop playing with the curtains (he almost pulled one down, so zero tolerance on this now) - ignore me asking you not to, ok your toy ambulance is going away until you show me you can listen. Mixed success with this though and it feels kind of mean, I don’t know if it is bad.
Having a lot of trouble with him totally ignoring me when I ask questions though and it is getting really frustrating.
Also while I am venting, it takes him ages to get to sleep at the moment and it pretty much kills any chance I have of relaxing and de-stressing at the end of the day