#135

If you learn from media and people your own age though you’re going to get a lot of things horribly wrong

#136

I don’t know, I didn’t have any friends left by the time I had met my bf. Though I didn’t seem to be included as a girl, my friends would hush up if they were speaking about anything like periods or relationship stuff if I came around :frowning_face:

#137

find friends talking about the actual details of their sex lives to be deeply suspect tbh

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#138

Depends what media and what friends.

For instance, before sex ed covered STIs, I already knew a decent amount from enough crappy teen shows and they were giving messages about the right things to be cautious if.

#139

I figured it would probably be something that guys did more than girls anyway.

#140

Depends.

They may not exist now, but I think most teen mags are more instructive and go further than school sex education did.

#141

Yeah, the older I get the more I think this. Had friends in our early twenties revealing more than they should about their sex lives. Was probably guilty of it myself. Now I’d rather keep it between me and the person I’m seeing thanks very much.

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#142

My parents tried their best, to little avail

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#143

Wasn’t thinking so much details of sex life, as just generally being a topic of conversation… I don’t know. This is more an anthropological curiosity to me, I have spent too much time isolated from regular human interaction and accept it is beyond me anyway.

#144

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#145

Me and my mates weren’t like that tbh.

Always thought girls were talking like the do on sex and the city… :confused: :laughing:

#146

I can probably recall about 6 occasions when we’ve even discussed it.

Oh - apart from endless games of ‘I have never’ that one of them used to force us to play. Just realised I actually know everything about their sex lives through that.

#147

Do kids who grew up with broadband just learn what to do and how it all supposedly works from watching porn videos online?

#148

The Tall Guy made the sex look like a ton of fun, which was a rare thing in mainstream movies back then. Still is come to think.

#149

When I was about 8/9 my best friend told me ‘everything’ when we were walking home from school. I just remember him finishing ending with ‘and then the man puts it up their bottom, spins them round and that’s called swivelling’.

And I had an awkward conversation with my Dad. He said something like ‘do you know about how a man and woman make a baby’ and I looked at my feet and muttered yes and that was it. I think I was 12/13.

As for talking to friends about sex. I’ve never even vaguely spoken about it to be honest. Someone I knew said on a Monday at work ‘we’re just trying to find out who had the most sex this weekend’ and I just didn’t answer. He was just a massive dickhead anyway.

#150

The TV and I decided early on to be open and honest from an early age with our kids and be led by them and when they wanted to know stuff.

Distinctly remember taking my eldest, aged 4,to a wildlife park. She was a precocious early reader and was attempting all the signs including one that said PLEASE BE QUIET IN THIS AREA THE POLECATS ARE MATING. This conversation follows -

Daddy what is matting?

Oh, that actually says “mating”.

OK. Daddy, what is mating.

OK so when a daddy polecat and a mummy polecat want to make a baby polecat the daddy polecat puts his willy in her vagina.

REALLY?

Yup.

Huh.

And off we went to go and see the wolves out otters or whatever. Didn’t think anything more of it until years later when we were discussing the mechanics of how her sister was made when she looked at us horrified and said “I thought that was just polecats!”

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#151

Everyone in this thread’s folks seem so hip and sweet and decent about it all.

This was more the vibe at our (very religious) house

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#152

nope they’re quite left wing and that but total prudes
i know about it though!

#153

If this is the case then we’re all fucked.

#154

@anon35496508

Well apparently with the influx of free porn online, this means less teenagers are having sex and less teenage pregnancies - yay, right?

Not quite. It means they all have erectile dysfunction when it comes to having sex with real people as it’s not the same performance as in pornography.

If you’re genuinely interested in this, the podcast called the Butterfly Effect by Jon Ronson is excellent and fascinating about the impact of free porn on the way people interact/have sex now.

There is a story much like @Scagden where a boy who had only seen pornography send some explicitly worded texts to a female friend when they were both quite young and he’s now on the sex offenders register because of it. Cant live in certain places, can’t get a job, his life is basically now over because he saw something in porn and wrote it to someone else without realizing the consequences

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