yeah, I don’t want this to come across as a matter of money.
truth is, my brother moved away with his young family a number of years ago and has never really made much of an effort to reach out. Christmas etc, it’s almost like our slice of the family were a mere afterthought. which is a bit galling.
in his defence, he and his wife have been dealt a really shitty card. their daughter has cystic fibrosis, which is obviously tremendously draining and probably takes all of their focus and time. I dunno, maybe they’ve taken on that ‘us versus them’ mentality on the back of that. again, dunno.
anyway, he is a decent guy and when we do get to spend some quality time together, mostly listening to records and talking shit, the ugly side of our relationship softens somewhat and the bond does get a little stronger