Apparently this thread is similar to one about Godzilla.
Anyway, I’m concerned about how many friends I seem to have shed through my twenties due to life. Now I’m genuinely unsure how to make friends. Dare not even admit how many people I can actually tap up for a pint or jam, it’s genuinely depressing. Other people I know seem to have a shitload of friends. It ain’t right I tell you.
i feel like the older you get the less friends you need. Personally have a small circle of mates who are my bezzies and that’s enough for me. That said, there are some other people who I consider really good mates who I’ll probably only see once or twice a year. In short: dunno.
In Yorkshire (where I’m from) - Yes
In Glasgow (where I live) - No
Can be difficult but probably have enough to get by and occupy my mind the rest of the time.
It really is about quality/proximity not quantity. If I had just one beer wanker friend who lived near me, everything would be completely fine, I reckon.
I do, but there are some who I hardly see anymore. Think it is inevitable as you get older to some extent. People start having kids and, understandably, have less opportunity to socialise, people move away, etc.
I’ve found it a bit more difficult this year as the pub I regularly went to closed. Previously I could just turn up there and guarantee there’d be someone I knew to catch up with. Now everyone’s dispersed.
Half the problem is keeping in touch. I don’t make enough effort due to confidence or whatever. I think I’m well liked but I’m just shit at taking it up a notch:
Similar - lots of chums back in that London, but only just starting to meet folks in Leeds. Hoping to form some through climbing but also contemplating some ‘meet-up’ activities.
Anyway I have very few close friends, but I think that’s just what happens when you get older. As a kid your ‘friends’ are just people you were born near geographically and chronologically, which is mad. As you’re older you get more picky, and get rid of the fluff (and dicks). I would consider everyone in my band a friend, and probably about 20 other people, but I’d probably go for a drink with/to the house of maybe 10 tops.
I’ll be your friend @PocketMouse, I like your hair.