#45

Depends how you class a friend really. I feel like I have enough for me.

#46

My sister would probably say she has 200 friends. She moans about the lot of them.

I feel happier with my situation.

#48

104 + 1

#49

I have a close friend who has billions of friends. Knows absolutely everyone. Sheā€™s just really good at talking to and making connections with people. Makes it very difficult to be her friend sometimes as you feel youā€™re always competing for her attention. I donā€™t think it makes her happy.

#50

Dated someone like this for a while, was exhausting

#51

Were they an only child?

#52

Dunno

#53

Great, thanks.

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#54

actually thinking about it my first pwopa gf (3+ years) was like this too. yeah really fucking exhausting and kinda terrible for self confidence as well.

#56

Iā€™m intrigued by this, why so?

Also what age do you mean by ā€˜olderā€™?

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#57

Yeah I see people like this and just think their lives must be exhausting - phones going off every 3 seconds with invites to stuff and rushing around everywhere trying to see a million different people, its not for me Clive.

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#58

The idea of moving abroad is too stressful. Would have no idea how to make friends.

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#59

Well for the purposes of ā€˜olderā€™ here Iā€™ll use a nebulous sense of ā€˜being mid-30sā€™ and over. I dunno I spent my 20s with the main motivation of my life being sociable and going out and that. As a result you sort of hoover up a lot of new friends. When you get older youā€™re more likely to get married/have a long-term relationship, focus more on your career and have children. Also Iā€™ve found I have a lot less energy to go out loads etc. As a result you spend less time socialising and maintaining friendships becomes tricky. And it becomes political and becomes a pain in the arse. And you also learn more about what a Friend ACTUALLY is.

I mean if you only see someone once/twice a year - how good a friend are they really?

As a result I genuinely think I have too many friends. I avoided saying this earlier in case someone saw that as a humblebrag. It really isnā€™t.

#60

one part of my life iā€™m v lucky. lots of pals to hang with thanks to work/staying close to uni and school friends

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#61

yeah like 7 or more , donā€™t see any of them often though

#62

As logical as that may be, Iā€™ve had a friend since P5, probably my closest in a sense, these days I only see once or twice a year but Iā€™m so glad of him, within a couple of minutes weā€™ll be talking like itā€™s only been a day or two since we last saw him. Iā€™d day heā€™s been a better friend to me than I have to him though.

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#63

I have 2 close girlfriends who I see fairly regularly and even that is a struggle to schedule time in with both.

I didnā€™t go to uni and I feel iā€™ve missed out on making loads of friends there. I was a bit too different from my school friends in that I am the only one still not living at home or 2 mins from their mum in Essex and going to the same nightclubs each week so we lost touch.

I am becoming more shy though so I donā€™t know how or if I will make more friends? I go to the gym every day and see the same people but canā€™t progress past ā€œhi, how are you? good thanksā€ and I donā€™t know why?? Everyone else is chatting together and having a nice time and Iā€™m just standing there. But I think I come across as a moody bitch rather than shy.

#64

Sure - but thatā€™s one. Itā€™s having, I dunno, 10 of them thatā€™s the issue.

I think Iā€™ve made this out to be worse than it is! Itā€™s obviously not a huge problem - I was just responding to the OPs question about having ā€œa lotā€ of friends and saying ā€œmate - honestly you donā€™t need a lot, you really donā€™tā€.

#65

Yeah Iā€™m definitely moody a lot. Donā€™t mean to be, my face just falls that way.

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#66

Thatā€™s fine, I almost wasnā€™t going to reply because it doesnā€™t really matter if we think differently about it but I figured itā€™s just chat and thatā€™s what weā€™re here to do so why not?