Does anyone have experience of dealing with a victim of sexual assault? (TRIGGER WARNING - NO BULLSHIT)


#1

I really need some advice/help for someone. I don’t know where else to turn. I’m basically a wreck atm and I feel less than useless. Any tips or links you could provide would be really, really appreciated. If you need a bit more detail I can PM you but I need to respect the person’s privacy by not divulging too much. I know this isn’t an appropriate place really but I need some guidance.


#2

I wish I could help but I don’t want to steer you in any wrong directions

hope you’re getting some good advice on the DMs and that whatever the situation is it can be handled in the best possible way

just wanted to post this so you didn’t feel ignored or isolated

big love to you and your friend x


#3

I was going to PM you but I think it is better to post here so you don’t get lots of different and/or contradictory information and you haven’t disclosed anything so here is some generic information:

I’m not sure where you/the person who the post is relating to are based. Rape crisis help women and girls and some services are for men https://rapecrisis.org.uk/helplinesemotionalsupport.php

rape crisis Scotland https://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk

national rape crisis helpline http://www.rasasc.org.uk/helpline/

survivors UK help men https://www.survivorsuk.org/ways-we-can-help/

some useful links here with some LGBT specialist services if that’s relevant http://www.galop.org.uk/useful-links/

look up where your nearest walk-in GUM clinics are in case the person would like to go to be tested, get post-exposure prophylaxis or seek other medical attention

other things (which you seem to be doing anyway)
• it’s obviously important to protect their privacy at all times but you seem to be aware of this. don’t tell other mutual friends or their family or anyone without their direct complete consent
• believe them (you also seem to be doing this)
• be non-judgemental
• give them options e.g. these services are available in the area rather direct advice or instructions about what to do e.g. you should get tested, you should go to the police


#4

y’know, if you ever left this community it would be so much poorer as a result

I think I speak on behalf of many, many users when I say that. Thanks for being here x


#5

just repeating things from other places x


#6

Its hard to know what advice to give without knowing your relationship to the person involved but it sounds horrible hope you are okay ad they get all the help and support they need xx


#7

By the way I understand that you shouldn’t really disclose anything. Im just trying to show some level of understanding and affection in a difficult time. DarwinBabe is clearly far more knowledgeable about these things then me xxx


#8

Really appreciate this peeps. @DarwinBabe have PM’s you hope that’s ok.


#9

PM’d even*