#97

I don’t pay for any meals out. And I don’t pay for petrol in the car. And I don’t take any spending money on holiday with me.

#feminist

I pay for all the food shopping and go get it on my own every week, I book all hotels on holiday which sometimes exceeds the spending money he takes (who knows, I’m not keeping track), I pay for the cinema every time which fuck me ain’t cheap

#98

out for dinner with a big group of people (say more than 5)

  • split the bill
  • everyone pays for themselves

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#99

Split the bill with caveats

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#100

yeah this^

also ill buy gig tickets to stuff I want to see if it something she will come along to but may not necessarily enjoy, and vice versa. If we both want to see them (or they re mad $$$) then we will pay for our own :man_shrugging:

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#101

With dates I asked the person out for food or coffee and so then I pay - I invited them out. Small recompense for their time and energy

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#102

yeah obviously if someone wants to be johnny food hero they can deal with that

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#103

Has he got a lot of money then?

(straight out the aggpass playbook, this one)

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#104

What you’ve written here sounds perfectly normal and in line with what I’ve been trying to say, if you have your own arrangements within your relationship that work then that’s great. The issue that I’ve been taking is with the subset of women out there who expect to be paid for completely, and especially by men that they may not see beyond a first date. Perhaps our wires are crossed here.

#105

Guys, this thread is about how you like to sit.

How about back to back?

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#106

I’m forking out for 2 nou camp tickets on the same grounds. We’ve both done it for a few gigs and films with mixed results

#107

I just go with the majority. if someone has had a glass of water whilst everyone else is on the steak and champers then ya know… common sense prevails.

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#108

no! no common sense! one rule for all.

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#109

Shame you are not getting the shitting back to back house.

#111

Also a non-drinker/no starter eater is well entitled to pay less without everyone thinking their tight. Also if someone wants to just pay for the stuff they had for budgeting reasons that’s fine

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#112

Usually aim for a split bill adjusted for those drinking booze or having desserts etc. Splitting a bill based on who had what is usually a nightmare and means people conveniently forgot about service charges.

Last night we went to Dishoom and the bill was £104 between six, but only me and my partner had a (shared) dessert and had a drink each, the others had tap water, so they paid £16 each and we paid £20 each and everyone seemed happy.

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#113

alright, shut it down mods. captain sensible over here has ruined it for everyone

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#114

I’m just miffed by the notion that you can say someone can’t have gender equality if they’re being paid for by a man. I don’t agree with that at all and it would apply to so many other things that men or women do for their partners/friends that would fall into the category of “gender norms” in relationships.

#115

How was your job as a shopping centre Santa?

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#116

The meal wasn’t as miserable as it may sound, btw

#117

I don’t believe that was ever an option for me