#26

People here grew up in all sorts of environments. Lots of us were bullied. Lots of us felt alientated, or lonely, or confused, or struggled with fitting in. It is a fairly common part of growing up for the vast majority of people.

If you’re in your mid-twenties and still obsessed with what happened to you at school to such an extent that it dominates your thinking today, then perhaps it is worth thinking about trying to address it professionally. You go round and round in circles on this forum saying the same things again and again. People try to be sympathetic but it can only go so far.

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#27

if you’re gonna @ me @ me.

I’ll not comment further.

#28

I don’t think that @Matt_was_taken was being mean to you, or meant it to come across that way.

You clearly do have some issues about your past, school, friendships etc, it’s nothing to be ashamed about. It’s probably a good idea to talk to someone.

I was bullied quite badly as a kid, but at senior school I went to the same school as my cousin (who was a bully himself), but protected me. Just so he could bully me himself.

I don’t really have any friends left over from school, nor would I want to. It probably has messed me up socially and anxiety wise. But now I just have a very small set of friends who know what I’m like, and to be quite frank I don’t really care whatever anyone else thinks.

#29

@Matt_was_taken @me

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#30

I’m still replying to my facebook birhday messages from November! Thanks everyone!

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#31

Fair enough. Just to be clear I’m not asking for anyone’s sympathy, I’m just trying to explain where I’m coming from.

This thread was a bad idea, I’d appreciate it if we could all stop posting now and let it sink.

#34

Guys can we all learn from this (and the other threads). They basically go like this

  1. complain that you’re hard done by and ask for advice
  2. get lots of advice that you then completely ignore
  3. ask for the thread to be deleted/pretend it wasnt a big deal anyway.

Stop indulging these threads!

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#35

I’d like it deleted

#38

It’s not smug, it’s literally every time! People put a lot of effort into the responses and it just gets ignored!

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#40

Reading stuff like that does actually makes me feel quite bad and awful about myself

#42

some harsh replies here tbh. not getting fuck all birthday wishes sucks man, i sympathise. people are shit. don’t think you need to have ‘issues’ to be hurt by that.

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#43

As though I’m 100% the problem and I’m actually completely extremely wrong about every single thing I think

#45

Yes please

#46

Birthdays are utterly pointless once you’re past about 21.

Genuinely don’t know when most of my good mates burthdays are.

(Exceptions for lost relatives/friends birthdays, obviously).

#47

Happy to discuss with moderators but as someone who has in the past consistently spent a lot of time and effort responding to these threads (as my background and recent situations have been v similar to punkos) only to have this work nuked, I’m not especially keen to delete his threads.

(What laelfy said tbh)

#48

And that the unpleasant things and feelings I genuinely experience are somehow not valid/real

#50

nobody is saying that. just they get pissed when they offer advice adn you just ignore it/don’t say thanks and want the thread nuked

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