For anyone who’s gone out with someone who suffers from fear of abandonment, how did you do it?
Long story short - have recently met someone, things have moved very fast - sex on second date, her talking about moving in on third date (scared the shit out of me!) - and I just don’t know how to navigate this. She’s exactly the same as an ex of mine, who also suffered from abandonment issues - first date to relationship in a blink of an eye, clingy, over the top sentiments of love, which then turned to her being scared she was going to lose me, going emotionally cold on me and then ending it before it ever really begun. Apparently people who suffer from fear of abandonment reject people before their partner has the chance to reject them - a form of being in control.
I really like this girl, but I’m wary this might go the same way as she’s very similar to this particular ex.
For anyone who has been with someone who had these fears, advice would be much appreciated.