Hi guys, can I ask for your opinion on something. SSP. Serious tag (as per reddit).
I was on a personal development course recently, and one of the topics was living in accordance with who you want to be as a person. As part of this conversation, we were looking at areas in life where we hadn’t acted in a way that is not consistent with who we want to be.
Someone on the course admitted to me (and a small group of others) that about a decade ago they had sex with someone after they asked him not to continue. He said that he felt bad about this since the incident, but at the time he didn’t recognise how major a thing this had been. Since the recent news and the course, he’s apparently become more aware of the seriousness of it, and he’s apparently spoken to her recently and apologised. She has forgiven him, and he still feels awful. This was all admitted in the spirit of recognising that this was a bad thing to have done, but part of me wondered if even now does he really understand the seriousness of it. The group took this in the spirit of someone sharing something that they were ashamed of, and thanked him for sharing, but it still sits very uncomfortably with me, as he was admitting to a serious sexual assault.
I only know him through this course, but am in regular contact. Do you think there is anything I should say / do?