Nah you just would suit someone who is ok with reassuring you and also ok with sometimes not being able to reassure you
Other than eating āunhealthy foodā (which I would hardly call self-destructive), i canāt really think of anything particularly self-destructive that I do
Unless occasional anxious self-sabotage counts, which feels more abstract
yeah, i absolutely think itās worthwhile knowing. My tv isnāt good with words but now I know how much they matter to me I can tell him that, if heās still not comfortable thatās totally fine but Iāll be able to know why Iām feeling a bit needy and recognising that is great.
very wholesome thread this
Yeah, I think I could probably grow into one over time but it would be a difficult few months full of worry for me, sometimes itās exhausting just existing so adapting to a whole new way of life would be very intense I think. Itās all good though
I got words of affirmation followed by acts of service
I thought this too, and could feel it affecting my answers.
I demand drinks and will wheel out the tally of drinks received that week when I think itās slipping. My bf often is rushing out the door to go to golf and Iām like MY TEA. Also most of the time I am asleep when he leaves and I have requested a thermos of tea to be left by my bedside on those occasions but so far, no thermos has arrived.
I like my first and last cups of the day to be made by him.
The thermos
He needs to up his game
I think itās just such an adorable idea and would make me very happy. Guess he just doesnāt love me!
Heās going to pee in that Thermos, and heāll be right to do it
Love how self aware this is!
This is not meant to be sarcastic but reading it back it might read as sarcastic.
Not sarcastic!
Yeah Iām usually cynical about stuff that seems a bit woo-woo as well but I think thereās something in this. Itās a blunt tool but itās a good way to think about how we relate to people in our lives.
This is why I didnāt do the quiz for ages, everytime I heard it mentioned I did an eye roll. Then I did it and itās genuinely really helpful to know. I want to get the tv to do it but I feel like itās too soon to be like DO THIS LOVE QUIZ without him thinking Iām the type of person who relishes in doing personality tests.
I think the receiving gifts one can be misread as greed or selfishness but I think itās just a sign that a person appreciates when their loved one is thinking of them when theyāre not around. It can be as simple as a partner bringing your favourite chocolate bar back from the shop or a nephew giving you a cool leaf theyāve found.
Dunno
I am up some gigs when those start happening again
Weirdly i got words of affirmation as my top one, but Iām very awkward about saying nice things to people. I guess there can be a difference between how you show love to others and how you want others to show you love - words would be right down the bottom for me for the former, probably
Iām also acts of service (which surprised me) - this is really nicely articulated and resonates a lot with me.
Iām the same. Find it so hard to say nice things but am trying to get better at this
My love language is pointing dogs out to me
Can anyone beat my 3% on words of affirmation? I mean I was already aware that the only person whose opinion of me that matters to me is my own, but wow.