I’ve worked quite a bit in secure learning disability services for men, and there’s some interesting values given to gender. For a start, there’s a lot of “I’d never hit a woman” bravado from some of the guys (many of who are basically lying) and that’s then pandered to by focusing on women to build positive relationships with them, take the lead with de-escalating etc. You can try to introduce the idea that violence is unjustifiable regardless of gender…but even that doesn’t touch on the issue of why it’s not okay to only abstain from hitting women. Further to that, staff don’t help as the pressures they’re under force them to work on a very short-term basis, and the advantage of preventing injury by deploying female only de-escalation teams outweighs any long term gain. Am I working on an incorrect assumption that it is right to challenge all questionable attitudes?
Any other examples that are less niche would be greatly appreciated.