I get your point about different people having different standards at different times, but this was a specific person saying they didnāt want to listen to a specific artist based on the actions of that artist. You ask who gets to consider if itās too serious, at the very least an individual can make that choice, and they must be welcome to bin the artist off as well as decide to press on regardless. I think āalways wanted toā is a leap from āto listen listā. There are so many artists out there, and not listening to one makes room for another. Itās not like theyāve forsaken all music.
The Fall were a band I was interested in listening years back, based on the hype Iād read. With The Fall/MES I think the personal behaviour discussion is particularly relevant, as he is sold as an iconoclastic figure. Actually though, I would argue his actions revealed him to be an unpleasant manifestation of English othodoxy, a bitter man lashing down. His personality is used as a selling point for the music, so itās reasonable imo to lose interest if you consider him rancid.