#41

Was in a 4 year relationship from 21-25 - we broke up and I was looking forward to an extended period of being single, playing the field etc. Completely bollocksed that up by meeting my current partner a few months later and we’re coming up to 3 years now. So yeah, 70-80% I guess?

Never thought I’d be the type to successfully be in a relationship when I was younger and was definitely surprised by how quickly I ended up in another relationship after the previous one ended, certainly didn’t see that coming. But I’m very lucky and very happy with it all, so y’know all good.

#42

Huh. Seems a shame.

#43

for some people it would feel that way others don’t want one, people have different needs and desires right?

#44

I don’t like living with regrets or “what it’s”, I try to try as many things as possible.

#45

that is fair enough but even with respect to those who want to be in a relationship it’s definitely easier for some people to do that than others

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#46

i feel like i would be dead without the mrs so it has worked out well :slightly_smiling_face:

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#47

very happy for you :slight_smile:

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#48

It’s just one part of life, I suppose. I definitely get down about it sometimes but generally speaking it’s probably not worth being sad about all the time.

Just when it’s two in the morning and I’m trying to get to sleep. Then it’s a right bastard.

#49

Been with L for about 16 years! I think I’ve had about 2 years overall when I’ve been single since I was 18

Very much have ‘grown up’ with L which is obvs amazing but also i find a little sad, like we are different people now, and I sometimes wonder what we would be like if we met each other now, like I think we still see each other a bit as we were when we were kids (as we have actually know each other even longer than the amount of time we have been together) and we are not really those people anymore, we’ve got a lot of collective baggage I guess.

I’ve been totally shaped by her, where I live, the job I do, my friendship circle. I can’t imagine what my life would be like now if she hadn’t been a part of it - might have never left my hometown, would have totally different friends, and tastes in lots of stuff, possibly might have got more into drugs, fuck knows what I would be doing for a job, probably would have slept with more women ha! Ithink my core personality would be pretty similar, but it’s impossible to say really, think I might have turned into a bit of a prick in the right circumstances

Sometimes fear I might have been a net negative to her life, that she might have found more happiness and contentment with someone else, like I’ve dampened her potential a little bit

But yeah, love her to bits - I’m very lucky to have her!

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#50

find this very touching and deep

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#51

:slightly_smiling_face:
I don’t really post actually stuff about my life in here so was in two minds about just abandoning that!

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#52

nah sounds like a lovely and mature way of looking at yourself and your relationship, probably can’t really ask for more than that. Congrats to you and your partner!

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#53

Not necessarily a choice though

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#54

Aw thanks! :slightly_smiling_face: that’s nice

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#55

Same really, have been in a relationship with mrS since I was 17 so 100% of adulthood. Do wonder what would have happened if we hadn’t stuck it out through all those years and we’ve definitely grown up together for better or worse. 🤷

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#56

4%
Winking does not get you places

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#57

It actually probably does get you into some winking clubs, but it evidently won’t help you maintain a relationship

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#58

A wink-based relationship is purely ephemeral; gone in the blink of an eye.

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#59

50%

Biggest highs and lowest lows when not single.

#60

Actually that’s bullshit.

I’ve had some of my best experiences having the freedom.