She really wants to get somewhere in Islington/Camden, we’re in Islington at the minute and my point is that we’re paying considerably more money to live there and there has been no tangible improvement in either of our lives as a result of it so why would we look to invest in somewhere as insanely expensive as it with no reason for it. My office is also moving in April so it won’t be convenient for me to be in Islington at all and she’ll be changing jobs but can literally go wherever she wants.
I keep saying she needs to nail the job first and then we’ll decide on where to look at properties based on that but she’s not even sure she wants to stay in teaching given how bad this current school is and is talking about doing her PHD or something else. Trying to frame these discussions as “you need to find what makes you happy/satisfied in your work and the rest will fall into place” is interpreted as me being reluctant to commit to buying property and spirals into me not being ambitious enough because I love my job and have no desire to change it etc.
Like I said, I think it can all be boiled down to having a very stressful and shitty time of it day-to-day at her work but that doesn’t make it any easier.