(and @GEOFF ) I guess it depends on personal situation. if yr girlfriend is ambivalent or ok with it, sure, go for it… still think it’s weird af but whatever floats people’s boats. however my dad is extremely manipulative and controlling when we disagree on things (usually of a traditional nature), which has constantly been to my detriment, so i would not be happy at all to pander to him by giving him any control - symbolic or not - on this sort of thing. so i have reasons to be massively against it and would feel hugely disrespected if my dad’s approval were considered more important than my own. good thing i don’t want to get married, eh.