Have you ever stayed friends with any of your exes? And not just a ‘say hello to them at a party and be cordial’, but actually friends and arrange to meet up with them and spend time with them as you would any other friend?
I went to a wedding earlier this year, in which one of the best men was an old long-term boyfriend of one of the husbands.
Not as such as I live in different countries to both of my (serious) exes- one I’m friendly with on facebook and such, and the other I speak to most days on whatsapp and sometimes we Skype.
I talk to one of my exes about once a month via facebook chat, but we’ve only met up a handful of times since we broke up. Was supposed to be meeting up last week but turned out she’d booked a month long yoga retreat at the last minute and was doing that instead.
All depends don’t it. I’ve got 2 exes. One I haven’t spoken a word to since I was finally able to get rid of her post breakup. She’s sent me the odd facebook message in the years since but I’ve ignored every one. The other I was still tight as fuck with for years and years after but our lives have gone in different directions so barely talk to her now. No enmity there or anything, just I guess the reasons we were suited to being in a relationship have also embedded themselves in the friendship space as well or something. I dunno, if she was back in the country and text me tomorrow I’d go for a drink with her no problem but can’t imagine either of us would enjoy it. And that awkwardness that you used to be proper close is palpable ain’t it. I dunno, life eh.
I had a similar thing happen to me with someone I didn’t go out for that long with (6 months I think), who basically ended up turning a whole group of people against me because I broke up with her which was apparently the wrong thing to do ‘because she’d had loads of guys mess her about in the past’.
don’t miss any of them tbf which is kind of lucky.
No, not really. One I stayed pretty friendly with, but in hindsight we were both just keeping the idea of getting back together alive and it wasn’t very healthy. In recent years when we’ve both been with other people, we’ve basically stopped talking outside of wishing happy birthday on Facebook or seeing each other with a wider group of friends if we’re both back in our hometown for Christmas.