Do you not have the compostable ones in the low country?
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Itās not compostable even though it says it is.
Iāve always done maybe 80% of the housework (100% when I was married), and I think it comes from me not wanting to be like my dad who did fuck all, and not ever wanting my other half to feel like my mum did.
Donāt get me wrong, I loved my dad, but when it came to house stuff he drove me up the wall with that, as you say, probably generational attitude.
As @Slicky said it largely stemmed from when my mum was at home with us as kids and he was at work, but when he retired and she was working she still did 100%. Lazy bollocks.
I enjoy cooking and find cleaning oddly satisfying though, so I donāt really mind.
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Live alone so all of it. Thing is, Iām so stuck in my ways now that watching someone else cooking in my kitchen or whatever drives me insane. Things need to be done my way, and I canāt stand it when theyāre done differently. Itās completely irrational but it makes me angry and anxious watching someone do something in my kitchen 
the fire alarm went off when I was cooking with someone else once and I couldnāt cope so just stormed out of the flat for a bit- feel terrible about that cause it was such an overreaction. So if I do ever end up living with a partner, Iāll probs do most of it still anyway to save arguments.
Find an evening listening to music and having a clean quite therapeutic anyway.
My friend is about to move in with her long term partner, and sheās worried about this. Was chatting the other day and things like him never deciding what to have for dinner, just saying āI dunnoā or āI donāt mindā, which would drive me round the bend as well.
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M and I are equally lackadaisical when it comes to keeping things tidy and clean. To the extent that both our mums had a word with us before we first moved in with each other warning that the other party would get fed up with our mess
Iām agog that putting the bins out is an apportionable chore! Do people have really long up hill driveways or soemthing?
if you are the only one that cares if a thing gets done or not, is it really fair to complain that the other people arenāt thinking about them?
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give him a list of things to do weekly for the next 52 weeks. then youāve asked.
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90% of physical tasks (cleaning, cooking, taking bins out etc), 10% of administrative tasks (booking appointments, paying bills etc).
Sometimes I begrudge the amount of menial labour I do (yesterday Mrs HYG baked a cake with our toddler then I had to clean up after them which didnāt put me in a good mood) but I wouldnāt swap it for having to navigate our direct debits, so it works for us.
cut a loo roll tube and stick that at the bottom, empty regular. no need for a bag
Yes it is.
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mould spores from lack of hygiene are literally harmful to health. it affects the household.
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100%.
Actually this is something I harbour quite a lot of resentment over. Sheās a ridiculously messy cook. Like, work surface will be a mess, the hob is a state, thereās vegetable peelings on the floor, and usually splashes up the cabinets. Itāsā¦ incredible. But fine, everyone cooks differently.
But then itās my job to clean up the shitshow! And then when I do the cooking? Itās still my job to clean up. Except Iām a delight to clean up after because I clean as I go and the kitchen ends up cleaner after Iāve finished cooking than it was before I started.
thereād be no penicillin with that attitude!
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guess it depends on what it is. something like making a bed doesnāt actually have to happen. if it annoys you that itās always you that has to think about doing it then just stop doing it.
idk
I live alone. When I lived with my landlady I left her to do everything apart from the occasional bin, bathroom, kitchen clean.
Iām not putting a cut up loo roll in my powder blue Joseph Joseph food caddy with graphite odour filter, obviously.
oh hang on i thought you were talking about housemates.
if weāre talking about partners, i like to do things for my partner that make her brain happy. she likes a made bed, iām not fussed. i make it because iām happy to do things i donāt need to to put a smile on someone elseās face. reckon itās a bit grim not to make 30 seconds of effort
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Polls for people who live with other adults (when I say fair share I donāt necessarily mean 50/50 as there may be other factors like disability or working hours that may mean itās fair for you to do more or less)
Poll for women:
- I do more than my fair share of housework
- I do less than my fair share of housework
- Itās split equally
0 voters
Poll for men:
- I do more than my fair share of housework
- I do less than my fair share of housework
- Itās split equally
0 voters
Poll for NB people:
- I do more than my fair share of housework
- I do less than my fair share of housework
- Itās split equally
0 voters