#46

Unfortunately this job pays me very well and has great prospects for my future. I actually like the work itself and my boss and my role. It’s just the people are rubbing me up the wrong way, or i’m rubbing them up the wrong way and I’m starting to feel a bit self-conscious for the first time in my life. It’s only a handful of morons. I have 3 weeks until my holiday and then after that I am going to speak to my boss about working from home a few days a week.

Also, aren’t there ALWAYS going to be people you disagree with at work, or is that just me?
The mental health jokes I have a plan for (next time they say anything I am going to tell them its inappropriate and it’s making me feel uncomfortable because I do suffer from mental health issues and depression is very much not a joke. I’m also going to speak to HR about doing some kind of mental health awareness in the workplace)
I know its bad but I feel like I have always worked with more men than women and it’s always been the thing that if you’re a woman, you have to put up with the “bants”. But the way the world is going now, I’m feeling more than ever that it’s just not acceptable. I know i’m not the only woman to feel this way in male dominated industries but what can I do to help? I need to think of something.
I guess I just feel sensitive and rebellious at the moment which is a dangerous combo - soz for the rant.

#47

hello all, hope the karma gathering is going well
in a lecture rn, and I will not go to another one for this module again. Oh Well.
got a bitta cookie clicker on the go as well, progressing rather nicely
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#48

did you ever speak to HR or anything? I know you don’t wanna seem like a ‘wuss’ or whatever but some of their behaviour seems really out of order and like they’ve gone out of their way to be twats to you, so if it’s affecting you and making work life unpleasant… i’d personally be having words about it.

#50

Not yet as I want to give them a chance to apologize/stop first. When they did it the other week, I was so upset but for some reason, I didn’t chat back like I normally would. I just said “ok” and carried on working. I want to warn them that it’s making me feel uncomfortable and I want them to stop. If they continue after that, I will speak to HR about it. I feel that’s probably the correct course of action?
I also want to have a conversation with my boss about it (even though she’s based in the US) to say this is whats happening to me and it’s causing me to be somewhat distracted.

It’s not constant but it just go through phases of being a bit bad. Cause of my “issues” I do struggle to work out if its as bad as i’m making out or if it is just jokes i’m taking wrong, I have no idea some times. But the depression stuff particularly upsets me as I’m struggling a lot this winter for the first time and it’s not nice to have people joke about that kind of stuff. It’s a bad cycle because I keep quiet because I am down, then that is seen as being miserable/depressed, so they joke about how miserable and depressed I am and then i get even more miserable and depressed. I think some people are so fucking thick that they can’t understand its a constant battle that is hidden.

sigh

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#51

I think that sounds like a sensible way to go about it - I mean they clearly sound like morons but it may be that they’re just totally lacking in self-awareness so it’s worth giving them a chance before involving HR…as that can get stressful in itself. If they don’t take that warning though then I’d not hesitate in going to your manager/HR.

fwiw too it doesn’t sound like you’re taking the jokes wrong, it sounds like they are being a bunch of jerks.

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#52

Fell over on Saturday night while I was fucked, thought nothing of it. Turns out I have two big cuts on the back of my ear where I crushed it against the ground. Head is killing me too.

Date went well last night though. She was super interesting and smart and I didn’t make a complete fool of myself. Will hopefully be meeting her again!

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#53

Agreed, they sound like proper berks. I’m sorry these people are so shitty and hope the HR stuff has a positive effect.

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#54

just bought soem more running tights

have to stop now - three pairs is rnough i thinjk

#56

Tagging people in photos at gigs when they are pulling silly faces never fails to make me giggle.

#59

Absolutely buzzing from the weekend. Had top bants and did pretty well at the tournaments despite not being on top form. However I did also spend 3 hours making out with a friend who I always fancy when we hang out (turns out that’s mutual, eyyy) before nipping back to the room I was sharing with my ex and getting off with him too. There literally wasn’t even 15 minutes between the two :smirk: Oops, but also feeling really good about myself. Got an interview for a job I really want near Leeds too :sunglasses:

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TV wants to go to little venice, used to go there a lot with the last TV,
#60

Got a “huh” from one of my penoid pals after saying I’m off to the protest tonight. Slightly offended by that.

Maybe they assume I’m a massive Tory because I don’t give them lifts anywhere i.e. don’t care about other people.

#61

I’m a Romance Wizard once again!

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#62

Tired. Working all weekend wasn’t fun, but oh well. Hand is a lot better, but can’t put any weight on it without it hurting.

Got the Japandroids and Sleigh Bells albums in the post today, plus some new paint brushes @Songs_about_ducking!

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#63

CountDAYUM!

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#65

yoga tonight

might take a banner along

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#68

Ah man. Satire is pretty heavy handed right now…

#69

The friend is the best player of all time and I’m widely regarded as the best female player so it’s basically the ultimate power coupling :’)