There are other traits I can relate to. Ever since I read up on the traits of the condition when I was 16, I’ve been convinced that I must have it. It might explain why I found fitting in at school so hard (unlike 96% of everyone else), and for example why I don’t really ever ‘flirt’ with anyone because maybe I don’t pick up on the social cues very well. But yeah, I might not have it (a couple of counsellors have told me I might have it, but a doctor has told me I probably don’t have it, although this was 4 years ago).
Yeah I didn’t word that very well. It’s not that I don’t care how others feel, I don’t want people to be sad or anything, but I don’t particularly experience much sadness myself if other people are feeling sad (although it depends on the circumstances), and I don’t feel particularly happy if other people are happy. I can understand the feelings of other people but I don’t necessarily share them. I was kind of drawing on what others said above, that empathy to me sometimes feels like a logical thing rather than emotional.
I can relate to this quite a lot though. I spend so much time feeling guilty and paranoid that I may have accidentally offended someone without realising it (and I can never tell, it’s always a grey area). But I’m slightly more concerned at what they must think of me as a person if I did offend them, and how they might treat me in the future, which makes me very socially anxious, so I’m always extra-careful with everything I say to people (which can be exhausting).