#32

Sounds like he’s got an insecurity about being secretly gay tbh

#33

crush doesn’t necessarily mean “sexually aroused by”.

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#34

guys! just like to say, I don’t dig the term ‘man crush’ either. couldn’t think of another way of describing the way I feel about Monty Don, Jurgen Klopp etc

#36

Jennifer Paige couldn’t quite nail the chorus.

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#37

It’s exactly that. It’s internalized homophobia from people who are scared of being labelled as homosexual so they make it all cutesy by putting ‘woman crush’ and ‘man crush’ instead. When in fact, they just admire that person and aren’t attracted to them in the romantic sense.

It’s kind of like when girls snog their girl friends in front of men.

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#39

Yeah, sorry. I don’t mean a crush in the sexual sense but you know what I mean.

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#41

this is utter, utter nonsense. off to play tennis now. looking forward to the absolute mess I come back to later!

#42

Ok.

#43

just a slightly less offensive version of ‘no homo’ innit. Just say that Olivier Giroud’s an outrageously beautiful man, no need for any justifications

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#46

Gorgeous

#47

George Clooney

#48

sorry, Plasticniki doesn’t watch the x-factor

#49

What’s he actually from?

#50

Oh, just looked him up. I assumed he was from Big Brother. Didn’t realise he was a singing sensation.

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#52

I think you deserve much better looking men than John Stones/Leighton Baines to be honest.

Next time he does it just calmy and unenthusiastically say that it’s a boring joke and he should be able to think of better. Then don’t react anytime he does it again. Maybe that will help? If not, get his email and sign him up to a shitload of gay porn. Not sure that will help but you know.

#53

This reminds me of a fairly heated argument I had with my dad when I was a teenager, he denied it was even possible to notice another man’s attractiveness. Obviously in the closet.

#54

I’ve seen this before and completely forgotten it. Of course!

This just proves how easy it is to forget stuff you’re not interested in. In your face marckee!

#55

i find this a little bit shrugworthy tbh. it’s not the best term, not sure i’d use it that much myself but i reckon in some contexts it’s more explanatory than just saying “crush”.

like, i don’t think it’s as simple as ‘describing a crush in a way that also suggests you’re not gay and don’t usually have crushes on the same gender is definitely internalised homophobia’. i mean, sure, it OFTEN is, but not really exclusively? i don’t particularly care if anyone thinks i’m gay and i don’t go to any particular lengths to make sure everyone knows, but at the same time i can understand peoples wishes to avoid an incorrect assumption in the same way you want to avoid someone pronouncing your name wrongly until you have to correct them.

as much as lots of us get the whole ‘sexuality is a spectrum’ idea, i still don’t think MOST people do. i think people talking openly about their ‘man-crush’ or ‘girl-crush’ is a step in the right direction for people who might otherwise just internalise and repress, and i dunno it just seems pretty harmless to me* in the grand scheme of things?

*admittedly someone not really in a position to be oppressed idk.

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