Yeah it’s like:
You have 20 new messages today! And your heart sinks. It’s not twenty pleasant people who have things in common with you saying hello.
Some guy sending you a sleazy message that makes you feel a bit ill
A guy who had seemed pleasant and polite is now suddenly screaming at you out of nowhere
Several people who live 300 miles away and are 20 years older than you
Someone sending you a “clever” chatup line, that is copied and pasted and you have received twenty times before
A weird patronising passive aggressive message putting you down
Somebody sending really pushy messages to get you to act out their weirdly specific fetish- in my case always seems to be men who want to be coffee tables for you
And it’s like your brain has to deal with all those, and you have to block a few more people before you can even think about answering the messages from nice people.