Online dating

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grindr
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#201

I’ve been relatively successful on tinder but the only time I’ve actually wanted things to progress further it didn’t work out.

:man_shrugging:t2:


#202

Wouldn’t we all.

Wait, that makes no sense. But you know what I mean.


#203

Anyone who wants Roscoe and Marlon dialogue whispered softly into their ears by candlelight is free to drop me a DM


#204

Yeah it’s like:

You have 20 new messages today! And your heart sinks. It’s not twenty pleasant people who have things in common with you saying hello.

It’s:

Some guy sending you a sleazy message that makes you feel a bit ill
A guy who had seemed pleasant and polite is now suddenly screaming at you out of nowhere
Several people who live 300 miles away and are 20 years older than you
Someone sending you a “clever” chatup line, that is copied and pasted and you have received twenty times before
A weird patronising passive aggressive message putting you down
Somebody sending really pushy messages to get you to act out their weirdly specific fetish- in my case always seems to be men who want to be coffee tables for you

And it’s like your brain has to deal with all those, and you have to block a few more people before you can even think about answering the messages from nice people.


#205

I hope you wrote them out in calligraphy on a fancy scroll as well. Notebooks are not going to cut it in this scenario.

(Maybe some kind of fancy handbound notebook)


#206

had been thinking about getting back on tinder

now i’m thinking maybe i can’t be fucked

would pay money to an agency who’d do all the work for me, like using a recruitment agency to find a job but for dating


#207

Nah do it but just be a normal, decent person. You’ll do fine.


#208

I still remember the gravity of how I imagine it must be when I was talking to a (similarly male) friend about tending to get weird hyper-sexual messages from (blatantly) fake accounts on various sites. We got to wondering about whether there was an equivalent sort of thing that generally happened to women - then realised the obvious fact that “oh yeah, women get bizarre sexual messages (and more of them), but from actual people”. There was a moment of silence on the train journey.

I really don’t get the impetus behind it, even as a rather awkward permanently single guy myself (sadly seemingly the demographic for this kind of baffling stuff)


#209

I like this; the scroll technique.


#210

I have a friend who is an actual bard. He won an eisteddfod and all. He’s married now. Must be some kind of correlation there, eh?


#211

Coffee table?! That’s very… niche


#212

I obviously look like a woman who needs to put her feet up on a human back.


#213

“SUPPLIES OWN BOOKS OF INTRIGUING NINETEENTH CENTURY PHOTOGRAPHY”


#214

Blimey! Well, it takes all sorts doesn’t it. You’d feel terrible if you spilt a cup of tea over them though, wouldn’t you? I’ve had a few offers to be dominating, which is odd because my natural expression is one of utter bewilderment.


#215

Surely there is some kind of specialist website for the coffee table people? With more chance of success than asking people at random on a general dating site.

I’ve actually just rejoined OKC because why not. I’ve left London and moved to a smaller town recently after travelling all year. I wonder if there are any human coffee tables lurking here?


#216

I had one guy message me, who clearly didn’t recognise me, who was best mates with my ex. Bit awkward and I didn’t really know how to respond so I ignored it. I later got back with the ex and like 8 years later I’ve never mentioned it.


#217

dinner?


#218

You’d imagine so, wouldn’t you! Maybe it’s the thrill of asking people who aren’t into that?
Good luck! I hope you get a lot less creepy types. Although, apparently you are a magnet to tablemen. Maybe explicitly state that on your profile- I DO NOT WANT TO PUT MY FEET AND/OR ORNAMENTS ON YOU OR YOUR BACK THANKYOUVERYMUCH


#219

Definitely the start of a sitcom!


#220

On the plus side he was incredibly nice in his message and not a weirdo or creep at all so he’s always been alright in my book since.