To join the sub-thread, coming back onto DiS after a hiatus of about 7 years, the atmosphere is worlds away from what it was before. It’s a lot less cliquey, a lot more welcoming and a lot less tolerant of people being shits towards other users. I stopped posting because I felt it felt too toxic and was around the start of the mental disintegration.
Back on the main thread, I am just staggered by some of the stories about Online Dating. I can’t fathom the though process behind a guy sending a pic of his weener to a girl he’s never met, and even less sending some kind of abuse / very thinly veiled insult disguised as a compliment. Or that a guy messaging a girl is doing that girl some kind of massive chivalrous favour.
If I was to approach it, I would find a girl that had similar interests and likes to me and try sending a message accentuating those things that we had in common, and probably add a very mild level of self-deprecation. It doesn’t sound as though this approach is particularly de-rigeur, but it feels like common sense. But then, I’m way old and don’t understand the way things are done these days.