Online dating

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pof
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#1042

Saw a profile today which was simply a photo of Brighton Bus Station. Not sure what they were going for really


#1043

So why is this viewed as ok but specifying a weight or body shape you would not date is not ok?


#1044

because if that is very important to you then you can probably work out body type from photos

If someone specifying height bothers you just swipe left


#1045

I suspect you’re trolling, but I’ll take this particular question at face value as it’s something I’ve noticed as well.

I tend to ignore those comments in bios that only ask for men of a particular height (I’m in a middle ground where I’m not particularly tall or short, fwiw) mainly because lots of people have a preferred ‘type’ but most people, ultimately, end up with someone who they just get along with and have shared interests/sense of humour. It doesn’t annoy me that people ask for ‘tall men’ in their profiles at all.

Also, I suppose people can’t help what sort of person they fancy?


#1046

all forms of regimented online dating seem kind of discriminatory and upsetting


#1047

speaking of filth, I saw one girl who said she wanted to a man to come inside her so she could crawl along the floor leaving a trail like a slug

also on okcupid, saw someone who said she sometimes pours the contents of her mooncup over herself in the shower and pretends to be elizabeth bathory


#1048

Well, with respect, you could say that about almost anything.

It works for me because although I wouldn’t say I’m shy, I’m not confident enough to approach someone on a night out for example (although I have tried it, with wildly varying levels of success). I also work from home and only have a small social circle where I live so some of the ‘normal’ ways people meet other people are sort-of closed to me.


#1049

Re the height thing: I used POF and it asked for a body ‘type’: thin / athletic / normal / carry a bit extra / BBW / whatever, not sure if height was asked for. Guess it’s just a preference thing, think it’s OK for someone to ask. These sites / apps are generally pretty brutal about looks, body type etc


#1050

fair enough just seems weird to me to meet people with the specific idea of dating them by creating a check list of things you like in a person.


#1051

It is strange at first Bam. Being of an older vintage, I am obviously more used to the ‘see someone you fancy in the pub - pluck up the courage to buy them a drink - hope for the best’ school of dating. Online is very different; seems to be generally accepted that you are allowed to run through a checklist before going ahead with an actual date. Not for the feint-hearted


#1052

I guess it’s not so different in the end but feels faintly narcissistic to me. Like you’re trying to end up dating your imagined best person which seems a little unhealthy.

I like to see the negatives in all things though :slight_smile:


#1053

I was certainly a bit of an eye-opener for me. The mindset is very different to ‘traditional’ dating and certain site/apps do pander to the very basic laws of attraction i.e. (s)he looks fit


#1054

You’ve kind-of touched on the point I was trying to make though. People might have check-lists in their head, but ultimately when/if you meet the right person a lot of that goes out the window.

I think someone mentioned this upthread though, that some people, instead of checklists, have a list of traits they don’t want people to have - which to me just comes across as rude.


#1055

been laughing at this for about 5 minutes. absolutely incredible stuff.


#1056

Really wish I was attracted to women now, that’s exactly the kind of jokingly depraved chat I’m looking for!! General filth is totally different to personal filth


#1057

Yeah, that’s some top notch filth there, I approve


#1058

#1059

Filth thread for Thursday: worst things you seen/been asked on online dating


#1060

‘Dating’ in general can be a brutal business a lot of the time. Same as it ever was.


#1061

oooh! might have to join some online dating sites/apps for a couple of days so i can contribute!