It’s sad that we see ‘a relationship’ as a distinct category of social relations, imo. I mean sure, we’re all products of history, both ours and the world’s. But I think real happiness, free from a fear of loss, can be found in breaking down the boundaries between ‘relationships’ and ‘friendships’, and instituting a simpler idea of a sort of kinship that finds its level where need meets desire, and abandons our ‘obligations’ towards another as not just undesireable, but socially unnecessary.
I think a world like that is possible, but it needs people to actively work towards it with a selfless spirit, rather than anxiously hoard what they already have behind the borders of their relationships. Definitely not gonna claim to be that kind of person myself - it’s just an ubermensch-ian ideal that we can work towards through openness, self-reflexivity and a powerful desire to love.
Thanks for listening.