Positive Thinking

Can you do it?

  • yeah sure!
  • if I try really hard
  • never going to work

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If you worry a lot, do feel it is sensible and reasonable to worry about everything?

  • yes
  • no but canā€™t help it

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Which do you fear most?

  • spending your life miserable and afraid
  • being caught by surprise with some bad news

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any helpful mantras for stuff like this?

Like something you can say to yourself that allows you to let go and live in the present?

Have an incredibly negative self-talk at all sports. Make a mistake and will just mutter under my breath calling myself a cunt. But by god it works

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  • positive experiences leave an impression that I can draw from in tough times
  • I quickly forget when things have worked out well for me

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I feel like the prevalence on having to think positively especially in the workplace is pretty toxic. Some things are just bad.

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  • I have become more optimistic as Iā€™ve gotten older
  • no change that Iā€™m aware of
  • some things are easier to be optimistic about, others harder
  • I have become less optimistic as Iā€™ve gotten older

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I like it when other people say stuff like ā€œweā€™ll deal with that if/when it happensā€ but I canā€™t get that mindset to work for me

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Not sure if Iā€™ve become more optimistic as Iā€™ve got older, but Iā€™ve definitely become more accepting of the things I canā€™t change and worry about them less.

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thatā€™s the best outcome I think, being able to accept situations

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Iā€™m not super pessimistic but I will instinctively take up a negative position when faced with overwhelming positivity.

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To be fair, itā€™s hard to say if it is an actual change in mindset or just a change in circumstances. Iā€™m much more financially, personally and professionally settled now than I was when I was younger so objectively there is less to worry about.

I think that obviously it makes it easier to deal with the remaining things there are that you canā€™t control. I can still get anxious at times, often about quite trivial things, but I can usually shake myself out of it.

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everything is terrible

not so much for me personally, but in the wider sense, climate doom, eternal tory rule etc.

hilarious if anyone tells me to think positive

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I was thinking more in your own life but I imagine stuff like this can still cut down similar lines of thinking:

itā€™s out of my control so why worry about it too much etc

Vaguely believe in this stuff - not like in a way of actually influencing anything, but more that you are more likely to take a chance on something if you believe thereā€™s a possibility of it paying off.

I very nearly missed my train today. I could of thought, ā€˜oh no Iā€™ve missed my trainā€™, bumbled along and missed it, but I thought positively, had a little jog along the platform and caught the train with seconds to spare! What a lesson!

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I think positive thinking probably has a huge impact on your quality of life personally.

I wouldnā€™t say I am a positive thinker but Iā€™m definitely not a negative thinker. I just donā€™t worry about anything I have no control over. I was a depressed teenager as Iā€™m sure many of us were, but as an adult, Iā€™ve managed to always live in the moment and have no particular plans, expectations or fears for the future. Itā€™s very liberating, and itā€™s done wonders for my demeanour.

I should add I mean living in the moment not in the kind of demonstrative social media ā€œYOLOā€ way, but just adapting to the world around as things happen and trying not to have any unrealistic expectations - I live a very risk-averse and some might think boring life but Iā€™m happy.

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Iā€™m a super worrier. I give myself a maximum amount of time to worry about any given thing so I donā€™t get into a worry spiral. It actually works pretty well for me.

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tend to believe if i just sort of muck in i will get the thing i want to happen eventually (provided others involved are also of a mucking-in nature)

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