#4

Actually did a little mental audit on this recently because I was challenged on it for some reason.

I worked out there are 5 who I actively dislike and who I am justified in doing so. This is around 10% I’d say.

Think the remainder is 45% - get on perfectly ok with but wouldn’t choose to see them and 45% - really like them and want to spend more time with them.

#5

Why is York better?

#6

check out johnny 50 friends over here

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#7

I think it’s his attempt at shabby bantz but it’s just done really badly. A bit like getting competitive over football teams or something, it genuinely means nothing.

#8

so he’s not really called geoff at all then?!?!?!

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#9

Pretty much. Put your own feelings to one side for the greater good of someone else.

#10

No I always get on with friends partners but our partners can enjoy each others company at parties etc but they probably wouldn’t call each other up and pick each other as friends if they didn’t have us as their connection! Which is interesting!

The things is, older people like those who talk about house buying and genuine opinions on favourite supermarkets can still chat and enjoy being in someone’s company for an evening, even if you wouldn’t necessarily have them as a friend, when you learn how to do it it’s a revelation! You don’t have to like everyone when you’re old! It’s liberating.

#11

Funnily enough I have been to both. And he is right. He really is.

Negging someone off with cathedral chat is so hilariously shit I’m actually wondering if this bloke’s actually a genius.

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#12

#FUCK OFF MATE LINCOLN IS BEST EVS!

#13

Sorry I don’t know what came over me there. Yeah that’s it, just grin and bear it innit.

#14

:smiley:

I’ve now got this idea in my head that this lad just permanently has cathedral hubris bubbling under waiting to get out and I’m finding it very funny.

#15

I should probably say I’ve known him for around 11 years as well. Every time, without fail, cathedral chat.

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#16

UTI indeed

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#17

Yes I think it does feel less of an issue when you’re a bit older. I think when you’re in your 20s, living in shared houses, going out every weekend, spending a great deal of time with a single group of friends, if there’s someone introduced to the group who doesn’t gel so well it feels like a massive deal. When you’re actually spending most of your time with your own partner/kids/etc and more seeing your friends for specific social events, rather than them being an intimate part of your life, you don’t feel the need for their partners to be a part of the gang so much. Also what casseroles said about getting older and being able to just enjoy someone’s company for a little bit and not worry whether you’ll be bessies later on.

#18

That’s fair enough. At the moment, these partners aren’t really people my friends have committed to or settled with, so there is often the case of someone you hope they don’t end up with, but if they do, grinning and bearing it and arguing the case for your cathedral.

#19

Really hope he never meets anyone from Salisbury 'cos he’ll get sparked out

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#20

Might put in a bit of research and do a proper David Brent/Fyodor Mikhailovich Dostoyevsky on him next time I see him.

#21

I like most of my friends’ partners or at least tolerate them if there’s nothing really wrong with them, but one of my friends has this boyfriend who sounds really Jekyll and Hyde. He can be a proper twat to her and they’ve broken up a couple of times because of it but keep getting back together. She lives between his place and her mum’s so I’m concerned that one of the reasons she stays with him is because it’s easier than planning life without him there.

I try to be a supportive friend even when he’s being a dick - the last time they broke up I was gagging to tell her to get the hell out for good but stopped myself and gave her some objective advice instead. Just hope she’ll realise what a toilet he is in her own time

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#23

Aye.

In my case there’s definitely a few instances of distance being caused by wanting to spend less time with someone’s partner and, therefore, them. Bit sad really but there we go. And conversely instances of natural drift whereby someone drifts away because their partner wants that etc. All very strange.

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