Response to posts derailing sensitive topics (Content Warning)

#1

This thread has been created to contain a number of posts from the Hookworms thread here:

These posts derailed the topic but at the same time I feel it’s important to recognise the forum responded to them in a positive way and I hope others considering putting their own oar in will reconsider on reading, hence this topic existing.

These posts are removed from the thread in blocks so they may be out of order.

A new block moved here will be marked by seeing this at the bottom of the post starting the block:
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This is the first post of the chain that I removed when creating this thread:

Hookworms (CW: Sexual, Physical Abuse)
#2

Some people just don’t want to deal with drawn-out police investigations. It’s traumatic enough as it is without having to relive it again and again, and probably not get any kind of closure at the end of it.

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#3

“L has asked me that I make the public aware of his actions”

The police are able to investigate, charge and bring these sorts of cases to court, even if the victim is unwilling to give evidence in court. I’m all in favour of a police investigation.

#4

fuck off man

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#5

Whaaaat?

If somebody has been the victim of a crime, it makes sense that the perpetrator is brought to justice. I appreciate that it must be a fucking horrible place to be in and she’s made the brave decision to speak out via a third party, but at the end of the day the facts are clear, and there’s a clear admittance of wrongdoing in messages from the perpetrator so it’s an open-and-shut case.

#6

Because the police and criminal justice system are really shit when it comes to stuff like this and they may not want to put themselves through that ordeal

#7

Good to know. But that’s just not your call to make.

#8

its none of your business how they choose to deal with it

#9

Surely an admittance of guilt in a message is a bang-to-rights situation though? She wouldn’t even have to attend court or want to press charges?

#10

I get why you feel this, but this thread isn’t really the place to die on that hill. Feel free to take it to one of the more generic threads if you want to continue the discussion.

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#11

I don’t know if you understand how the police operate, but an admittance of guilt in a message which can be traced back to a phone/IP address is something a friend of mine in the constabulary would jump on.

I appreciate the sensitivity of the subject and the hard time L must be going through, but if someone has openly admitted to wrongdoing with then it makes sense that the offender should be brought to justice.

#12

It’s in the public interest to see a criminal brought to justice. It’s very much my business.

#13

please fuck off

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#14

I’m not all that keen on telling survivors of abuse what to do. Doubly so when I don’t even know them at all. I’m not sure why you think you have the right to say what she needs to do. It has precisely fuck all to do with you.

#15

@1101010 you remain absolutely class. Thanks for keeping the boards dece in what I assume is eating in to your personal time significantly

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#16

This is exactly the kind of sensible discussion that he’s suggesting should continue in this forum. Yet your opponent is now no longer here to take part. Personally I did think he was putting forward his opinion appropriately, whether people agree with it or not. I’m not sure silencing him, when there are further points being made, is a great idea. If anything it could help convince others who haven’t quite come round the same way of thinking.

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Hookworms (CW: Sexual, Physical Abuse)
#17

If it was a long time poster they would have earnt some benefit of the doubt, but at best it was a lurker who only felt compelled to sign up because they felt so strongly about the possible innocence of someone who is extremely unlikely to be innocent, or it is a troll on the wind up, either way no great loss

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#18

Not sure I go with this either. Forum status shouldn’t really factor into whether someone is allowed opinion. New users appears regularly and this place is better for it, we want them to stay. His opinion, whether I’ll intentioned or not, is one that is held by others, just not many on here.

I just think it is better to engage than silence. If he starts being offensive or insulting then fine. Otherwise let the debate have a positive effect on others.

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#19

Nobody has been stopped from having an opinion.

I don’t want to speak for everyone, but i’m more than happy to see the back of anyone who signs up to be unpleasant in a thread about sexual assault.

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#20

Fair enough, Theo.

As said, moderation on here is pretty much spot on. Just not a fan of over-zealous censorship in general - not that I am implying that that was what you had done.

Ben

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