Sorry for the War and Peace-length title.
The whole litany of sexual harassment/abuse revelations has really #mademethink about my/others’ experiences in the communities I’m a part of. In the community I’m thinking of, it’s very male dominated and there have been quite a few issues with this stuff. Feel like an idiot for not having thought of it before but I feel like there should be some kind of community support framework for dealing with this stuff (both for those who face it and the perpetrators).
Problem is I have no idea where to start with this especially as it’s a massively backwards community in some respects. I kind of want to have an open discussion about it but I just feel like that would end up being derailed by whataboutery and any backlash further putting off anyone who has faced this in the past or faces it in the future. I’m also nervous about people not taking it seriously or it exacerbating any issues, plus a looot of the guys involved are autistic or have other issues which make plain calling out a bit more complex; these are issues I don’t have any experience in dealing with sensitively.
I’d like to have a few trusted people who will confidentially listen to allegations and act upon the information in a way that the victim is comfortable with… but then I have to choose people who are appropriate, prepared and at least slightly trained for the role, not to mention willing. Then I’d like to speak to people, esp women, to see what they’d like to be in place as support/dealing with it… but I don’t want to bring up any bad experiences for people that they’d rather not be reminded of.
Just seems like a total minefield and I don’t want to do more harm than good, but I think even just 2 people who can be safe spaces for victims to chat to would be beneficial?