Yeah but she’s still picking an activity that’s just you, and pushing for it quickly. If it was just friendship it would be more like “oh it would be nice to have a catchup, would you and your wife like to go for a drink/meal some time?” and make sure there was a slight distance and casualness to it
Like maybe I’m more het up about keeping appropriate interpersonal boundaries and responding to unspoken undercurrents than a lot of people, but it all seems way inappropriate on her part to me.