What you like when it comes to sulking?
I’m currently mid sulk with my bf for the most ridiculous reason BUT I AIN’T BUDGING.
I can see he has budged when he would love to sulk for hours but I think I might just drag it out a little bit longer. Just because.
Talk to me about your sulking.
I used to be a champion at sulking, in fact it was once referred to as a ‘silent sentence’. I’ve tried to get over it now, as you don’t really win from it, do you?
You literally never get anything from it but whereas I used to cave quickly, I don’t care to cave quickly any more. I’m not sure why.
I don’t sulk as such, like an active ignorance, but sometimes I just need significantly more space from people if they’ve done something wrong. Potentially for years.
Our arguments almost always take the following pattern where the original point of contention is quickly forgotten and the argument then becomes about the fact that I don’t bother with sulking and the TV loves a good sulk
- TV is annoyed at something
- I’m annoyed that she’s annoyed because I’m DEFINITELY in the right (and I normally am…)
- I want to make up but she is sulking
- I get annoyed about this
- She gets annoyed that I’m annoyed about her sulking
- Vice versa
- I apologise for my reaction
- Go back to 3
Not keen on real sulking if it is half jokey that is ok.
I called out my tv when she was sulking by calling her a ‘mardy cunt’. High risk strategy but it worked. She reminds me of it occasionally.
I blame skillz11
I use the watered down version of this and say ‘stop being difficult’ Im not sure what it means but it gets the point across.
My reaction would be “stop being such a dickhead then”
Just leave me alone yeah.
Exactly it stops the sulking and you find out what the problem is.
My issue is I find it quite funny when my wife is angry so a few times in the past I’ve started to smile and she has laughed and it’s diffused the whole thing. But fuck me it’s a risky strategy.
I am useless at sulking and incapable of holding a grudge. When I was younger if I got pissed at my brother I would write a note to myself reminding me not to let him use my PS2 since otherwise I wouldn’t have given a shit.
Can’t be arsed with sulking, I’m an adult.
If the gf slams a door or two I ask her what she thinks damaging the house will achieve? As you can imagine, this helps matters immensely.
I’m probably a massive sulker but I tell myself it’s other things like “maintaining a dignified silence”. But it’s sulking really.
I think my sulking is just spending time alone and trying to snap myself out it. Hate sulking both when I do it and when others do.
Especially hate the type of sulking which is passive aggressive and in-your-face mardy.
E.g. When someone sulks because they haven’t been included travel plans to an event that they’re not interested in going to and that they’re missing because they’re busy with something else. Also they haven’t once asked about what the plans were even though the rest of us had talked about going all week. So after realising they’re not getting this lift, they only give one word answers to your questions and say “guess I’ll go spend time with the people who like me” slams door, clatters upstairs, comes back to the living room, finishes getting ready to leave for their own thing, ignores your apology, says “guess I’ll see you later on, if you remember to text me haha”, leaves, doesn’t respond when you say bye, slams door.
^Happened irl last week, wanted to chin him.
What about if you loose a card game( to one of the lift askers) does it not burn deep and trigger a sulk?
Much prefer sulkers to actually aggressive people btw