Yup, the olive complexion thing is/was my understanding. But people seemed to be bringing that into question, as an outright thing, separate from the ‘hairy’ part.
This is what I meant by overstretching. Unlikely that the kid has hairy pits, though not impossible, I guess.
Wouldn’t be unreasonable to note that darker haired, olive skinned people are perhaps more noticeably hairy in general than dark haired darker skinned people, or light skinned light haired people. A simple thing of contrast, that.
But the direct relevance of that to the hugging/tickling issue is, I would suggest, without further consideration (which I’m very loathe to indulge in), tenuous at best.
There’s a way of approaching these things. Come at it with aggro about how everything is a fundamental and linked signifier of oppression rooted in privilege. Or, as @ghosthalo says, consider the context.
But, again, I don’t know the whole story. And many many parents would deny there’s anything wrong with, say, the ‘Boys will be boys’ phrase. Even when it’s explained.
I have a thing about doggedly calling the green pedestrian light the green ‘person’. And when others don’t, it aggravates me. I don’t let it boil over cos I can’t be doing with the grief. But fair fucks to anyone who wants to stand their ground on everything they consider to be an injustice. So tiring, though. And, to come back to this specific case, taking apparent delight, as an adult, in ragging on an oblivious child seems mean, to say the least.
Ultimately this. No-one wins here.