A discussion of the peach scene in Call Me By Your Name with my partner the other night prompted her to ask if sticking your old lad into things is something men do. I had to think about it, I know I’ve never done it, but I’m not so arrogant to presume to speak on behalf of the male community at large. I said no on the grounds that nobody’s ever told me they’ve done it, and I know a lot of men who like to tell me their most intimate details.