#71

A fair and equal society (where people have lots of fun and consensual shagging)

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#72

my switch needs rewiring

#73

Boobies

#74

there it is, my true fantasy

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#75
  • Could go a bit of sex
  • No thanks we’re British

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#77

Cheers. I have amended my vote accordingly.

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#78

Think I am losing my mind WFH. Nearly just entered 696969696969 in an online form with a mandatory number field until I remembered at the last minute that it was for work.

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#79

I’m sure I’ve said it before, but I wouldn’t rule anything out. Other than poo and cutting.

If the person or people I’m doing stuff with want to do it then I’m gonna go all in.

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#80

The more vanilla someone is, or the more ‘asexual’ they seem in everyday life, the more taboo and sexy it feels when they do anything sexual, no matter how vanilla. I can’t tell how much my reversion to vanilla (not exactly like I was hyper kinky anyway) is because of my fears, or because though I had some fun trying new stuff it all felt like a novelty, or because the person I most enjoy being with who is the only person I trust 10000% is totally vanilla. but like, the best vanilla, hand churned in a remote Tuscan village to a recipe handed down and perfected over 5 generations, and once you’ve had that then chocolate is fine, it’s a bit different and it scratches that ice cream itch but all you think about is that absolutely magical vanilla.

summary

I dunno. I guess it’s impossible for me to feel that excited about specific fetishes or acts. no act could live up to the experience of finding someone I truly deeply connect with a human and sexual level. would be cool if my mental health didn’t go into freefall during long periods of celibacy, because meaningless sex just feels so hollow and pointless (even if it’s enjoyable) and I can’t imagine being arsed to suck a dick if I’m not invested in them on an emotional level. Not gonna cumguzzle for anyone.

I should really change my username. I hate that I feel like this, I would much prefer to be adventurous and sexy and the cool girl who just loves to try everything. And it feels really regressive to realise how I really feel rather than cowering behind how I want to feel.

But being open minded and a free spirit on this stuff just got me traumatised and totally dehumanised. And I know that’s a really bad experience and not all kinksters etc etc, but when my high watermark for respect and care and consent is so vanilla, how can you not start to see them as opposing forces… (Btw I know that you can be emotionally and sexually invested in multiple people but I haven’t fancied anyone new in the last 3 years)

Pervo: ruining filth threads since 2019 x

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#81

Semi relevant. close friend of mine has recently started hooking up with someone (ish, no sex before marriage but literally everything apart from penetration is fine) and they are getting somewhat kinky. All fine and good. But she has a bit of a tendency to frame this stuff in a braggy/‘edgy’ way which makes me feel a bit :grimacing: because a) it’s lockdown and she’s making me feel a bit jealous that she gets to be close to someone (and our other friend has barely been with anyone in years and I know this is massively inflaming her insecurities), b) uncomfortable with my own fears and bad experiences, and c) it’s just a bit awkward? I don’t mind knowing about it but maybe not as something that gets constantly brought up?

But then I feel bad about feeling bad because we’re her closest girl friends, there are religious pals she can’t talk to about this because they’re far more judgemental about it, and - after 3 stinging heartbreaks where she was hugely dragged towards commitment and then ditched as soon as she got to that point - she deserves to get what she needs. I guess it just feels a bit sixth form to be really smug and controversial because you tried 69ing ffs.

And I’m aware I’m being a bit of a hypocrite about all this. Just blowing off steam I guess.

(shall I change my username to imaprude?)

#82

Fwiw, I really enjoyed the post

not in a wanking way I am not wanking as I write this

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#83

obviously now I think you’re wanking.

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#84

CW: sexual violence (not me doing the violence though so I’m not a wrong un)

yeah so I have one of those rape fantasies that I’ve read are PERFECTLY NORMAL and lots of people have. Think I got it from having dialup internet as a teenager so would have to print off text files in secret to get my grot, and got dead into the ones where our pov character gets trapped and ridden against their will (though they can’t help but love it) by somebody or somebodies. Felt horrible and filthy and like a bad person for like 15 years, never disclosed it to anybody until Her Indoors coaxed it out of me. She’s does not want to rape me which is understandable and fine, so I’m never going to get it. Obviously actual rape is very bad and this is a different thing from that and I’ve googled it and lots of people have this same thing so I’m not evil, just weird

#85

ooft

#86

Definitely nothing to feel bad about with this m9. You realise the difference between fantasy world and reality so it’s fine. Also it’s great that you and your partner are tight enough for you to have discussed this :+1: Plus, as you say this is a veeeerrry common fantasy.

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#87

100% this.

Graphic sex talk:

Doubt I would have ever had the chance to have threesomes, or experience things like pegging, snowballing, rimming etc had my uni ex/fb not been so opened minded and suggested doing those sort of things. Not really stuff that was ever on my radar before she brought it up.

#88

After that I asked her if she had any deep unspoken fantasies and got ‘If they ever come up with a vegan Donner kebab in naan that tastes like the one I used to get from the takeaway I will cum like nobody’s business’

When she’s right she’s right.

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#89

when I started reading this I was curious by the end… strangely hungry?

#90

I assume this is the pre summary bit :smiley:

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#91

Sometimes i type posts out in these threads and delete them.

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