This piggybacks of a lot of twitter threads being posted over the past few months. It ties into the TERF arguments, and the recent Labour Party inner-wranglings a bit, but mostly it’s about ground level issues.
I work with older men and many of them are as “woke” as they can be; pretty convinced that being gay isn’t a thing they disagree with, and that immigration issues are “not really a thing”. But one subject really sticks in their throat; trans issues.
I understand that the language of the world is going to struggle with people transitioning, and the world isn’t quite ready yet to be okay with the language around this whole subject, but it’s the snide comments and belittling of a view that, in all honesty, I can’t really say is something I’m entirely confident in talking about. My imprecise language would rightly offend many, in the moment, much like when my our parents might try to talk about “the gays” in a non-offensive way.
Many know what is homophobic* but many don’t know what transphobia* is, my self include to the fullest extent (obviously). How do you handle someone who is very pointedly and obviously mis-gendering someone (for example, Caitlyn Jenner being called Bruce and a man, or Chelsea Manning being called male, in conversation) without raising their hackles? Is there a way?
Like a man identifying as a feminist (something that shouldn’t be said lightly in a lot of ways, as @DarwinBabe has explained well before on here before) how can someone be an ally or help or whatever verb/adjective you want to use on this issue?
Tough thread. Maybe too tough. Maybe a wrong headed thread. Maybe the wrong thread for International Women’s Day. Maybe I’m wrong. Maybe nothing’s ever right. Maybe, well, can I just have a hug please?
*Now, this is just the word I’m using to describe the language used, not the person who says them - as in, calling someone a poof is homophobic, but doesn’t mean you’re homophobic, per se