Is this something that others deal with?
It’s a real problem for me when it comes to people who are close to me and pay attention to what I say. I have a habit of “putting my foot in it” in ways that I can’t argue with the negative impact of.
It usually happens in a scenario where I’m relaxed, and end up verbalising mental spurts that haven’t been fully thought through. At the time it feels like a totally normal thing to think, but when it’s thought through, it’s not only insensitive, but it makes assumptions of the other person that say more about yourself than about the other person.
My mother has this in overdrive, but I also have it and it causes huge problems in every scenario I have. My only “coping mechanism” is to be totally withdrawn and that has problems of its own which are arguably worse.
Are there any good coping mechanisms for being this way? “Don’t be a terrible person” I’m sure some helpful people will say, but it’s not as simple as that. I do believe I have good intentions, but I feel that I have an instinct to overshare before I even understand my own thoughts and their own meanings.
- No, but oI know someone who has
- Not sure