#83

Yep - we’ve taken a copy of Jimbo’s birth certificate whenever we’re abroad for that very reason.

Still not a nearly enough of a reason for anyone to change their name though.

e2a : why should a child’s parents be married / have the same name in the first place? This is the 21st century - let people have kids without being married!

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#84

same, I get a lot of eye rolls from other people about it!

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#85

Really strongly agree with this for exactly the reasons you say, but also there should be nothing inappropriate or embarrassing about the correct words.

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#86

I swear I remember asking my mum about sex when I was quite a small child and she told me a man puts his willy in a woman’s bum. She strenuously denies this, but i really vividly remember it.

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#87

Absolutely, we’ve always used them so for the kids it’s a normal as saying arm, nose, hand. But you can see the discomfort in some adult responses. My eldest has the puberty talk at school this term so interested to see what terminology is used and how much I’ll need to un-teach.

#88

I was stopped on the way back from holiday because of this, they started quizzing my then 2 year old ‘who’s this’ whilst pointing at me. She naturally would not say mummy. They told me I should take her birth certificate next time but literally never been told that until that point and I don’t think there’s any legal need to. Was pretty scary though the way they told me they weren’t going to let us through. Yeah, that’s right, give me, the parent who stuck around, all the grief.

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#89

Ha, it has made me paranoid As A Parent, that the dumb throwaway shit I say today will somehow be permanently etched on their memories.

#90

That’s awful, what kind of idiot tries to get hard facts out of a two year old.

#91

eye rolls I can handle, it’s the shocked looks that some people give, as if to suggest you’re sexualising your own child by teaching them the correct words for things.

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#92

I think they also asked ‘is this your mummy’ and she shook her head :see_no_evil:

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#93

haha of course she did! guaranteed reaction

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#94

Something I’ve been trying to get better at is talking to men and women in a professional setting with the same softness/directness. I definitely change the way I’m talking in meetings based on gender. I tend to be more smiley, tell jokes and make casual conversation with women, and am more businesslike and direct with men. I don’t want to stop being smiley or making conversation, but I’m making an effort to do that with men more often while also not trying to sugar coat things when talking to women.
I guess the toxic trope in question here is “women are soft / men are hard” or something like that.

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#96

Have watched a couple of good Zoom videos from the Vagina musum on this sort of stuff recently.

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#97

Really fucking pisses me off when men swear in front of me at work and then apologise to me for it?! Like my delicate lady sensibilities can’t handle hearing a swear word, it’s so patronising :roll_eyes:

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#98

https://instagram.com/wheredoesthepeecomeout?utm_medium=copy_link

This is a woman who asks men on dating sites where women pee from. Some very alarming responses.

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#99

Grim

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#100

Gotta admit, I loved having older male managers because you can really get away with anything if you tap into their fathering instincts. I have not-a-great relationship with my actual dad and I genuinely think there’s like a bit of a wound there where I’ve bonded really well with work dads. The drawback, of course, is never getting promoted internally.

#101

Yeah - My wife got a big reaction from a bunch of parents when our lad and a bunch of friends (all ages 4/5/6) said she had a willy and she explained that no, she didn’t, she had a vagina instead.

Parents were shocked that she used the word vagina :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :frowning:

#104

um holy fucking shit

get the fuck outta here

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#105

@moderators