#48

It’s interesting to see how differently people approach their second (and subsequent) weddings compared to the first.

The best thing is just being with people you care about for a really good do isn’t it? For me that’s more important than novelty.

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#49

Just remembered that I was volunteered to be the photographer at some friends’ vow renewal ceremony. I am not a photography enthusiast.

To this day I have not seen any of the photos that I took with the groom’s borrowed fancy camera.

#50

Good thing about having no friends is that I hardly ever get invited to weddings, when I do it’s for absolutely proper friends. Think I’ve been to 2 in the last 10 years.

Also - I’m not a particularly shy or introverted person in public but I cannot imagine anything worse than my own wedding day, it must be excruciating.

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#51

absolutely, do whatever you want

lots of folk will bin it off though so as long as you’re happy with that

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#52

Same with people who have maybe been with their partner for a long time already, maybe have children or who just got together a bit later in life. I guess it is just growing up and understanding what is actually important.

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#53

One thing that irks me is how much cash you’re expected to give people. Where did this unwritten rule of £50 being standard come from? Why, as a single person, am i expected to give the same amount couples give?

Last wedding i went to cost me £190 for fuel, hotel, gift and beers. I can get to Almeria for £40. It’s a fucking SWINDLE, mate.

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#54

You’re talking 6 hours worth of drinking with plenty of interruptions, and people drink less at weddings than you think they will. My old man’s side of the family absolutely packed the pints in and it still worked out fine.

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#55

A wedding on NYE

  • Are you kidding?!
  • Oh cool, that night is basically always rubbish so some organised fun saves me a job

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#56

Didn’t even go to my brother’s ffs :flushed:

#57

Not a fan of the institution of marriage, and got pretty tired of weddings during the years 2005-2010 when all of my pals were getting wed and I sometimes had two weddings on the same weekend (in 2007 we had 14 weddings in the one year.) It was incredibly expensive and I didn’t have a holiday for two years because I couldn’t afford to (in terms of money and annual leave which was exhausted by the weddings.)

Having said all that, seeing somebody that you care about get married (which is obviously important to them, regardless of my own personal views) to their partner is a wonderful thing, and some of the fripperies around the occasion can be really good fun (especially in Scotland- I love a Scottish wedding.) I have no particular views on people asking for whatever for their wedding gift- it’s customary (although not compulsory) to give one, but I’ll definitely go for a small token rather than a large gift if it’s already cost me a bomb just to attend.

I do think weddings (and the planning of them in particular) can bring out the worst in people- hidden resentments (petty or serious), jealousies, past hurts can all bubble to the surface once a wedding is on the horizon. Makes you wonder why a lot of folk bother. :rofl:

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#58

The other thing that irks me is how much everyone gets ripped off. A grand for a cake, and if you challenge it they always say ‘surely it’s worth it for this unique occasion’.

My opinion may be coloured by the fact that my cousin’s ex-husband ran a wedding shop that went bust. He was a bit of a villain, and took deposits from people for dresses he knew he couldn’t supply. Just ripped them off basically.

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#59

NO

#60

Going to a pals wedding in New York this year. Normally this ask would be “cheeky, I will NOT be doing that” but I coincidentally very much wanted to go to New York, so that’s good

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#61

My brother is getting married in 2021 and the open bar thing has been such an issue.
My dad thinks its insanely rude to not put on booze.
My sis-in-law to be doesn’t want to give anyone ANY free booze, not even wine on the table!

It’s interesting.

I’m free bar all the way. It will be my only real requirement for getting married.

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#62

Didn’t go to a couple of my cousins weddings because the combination of where (partners home towns) and when (peak holiday season) meant it would in each case have cost me and my partner literally £2k each just to get to the location and stay the minimum nights required. Part of that was due to where we were living at the time but even if we’d been in the UK it would have been a huge financial outlay.

#63

I ELOPED to Bath, stayed in a swanky hotel for a few days, pubs, restaurants. Couple of security guards as witnesses. Annoyed a lot of the family. winwin

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#64

If its in London - right on.

If I have to travel - FO, M - hotels would cost a bomb

#65

even if you didn’t you could rent one, which is fair enough to ask imo

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#66

Things I really like about weddings:

  1. Seeing your friends having a lovely time and it being a day that is fully earnest without being excruciating
  2. Proud parents
  3. That bit where there are kids who don’t know each other being really nervy around each other at the start of the day but by 1800 they’re pissing about together doing knee slides and that
  4. Someone crying whilst doing a reading
  5. The speeches
  6. Pissing about with your mates in a European city for 3/4 days beforehand and reverting to adolescence
  7. Canapés
  8. Giving the people who have just got married a cuddle after the ceremony
  9. Seeing people you don’t see very often any more
  10. You sometimes get a little bag of sweets or something

Things I don’t like about weddings:

  1. The “come and have a dance” person
  2. The entirety of the “wedding reception”
  3. How do these fucking suit trousers fit even less than the last wedding and they didn’t fit then either!?
  4. The uneasy tension of what the “traditional” parents want vs what the couple wants/ends up doing
  5. The bit where sometimes you’re expected to book accommodation near the venue rather than going home
  6. Nursing a glass of champagne you won’t drink just so you have something in your hand for “the toasts”
  7. Nan moaning about which table she’s been put on
  8. Living on a fucking Prayer, Dancing fucking Queen, Bohemian fucking Rhapsody
  9. Feet hurt
  10. Went to one once which deliberately sat people next to people they didn’t know for the meal to encourage some sort of “make new friends” atmosphere
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#67

ooft.

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