I think certain people on here definitely set out with the intention of causing me emotional harm. No names but they know who they are, not that I’m interested in getting in an argument with them over this.
I don’t think football needs to be 90% schadenfreude as you say. I don’t know if it’s a modern thing but I think it’s a bit of a sickness in football fandom generally. I’m partial to it occasionally, and sometimes it’s almost unavoidable (cf. last day of last season), but I’ve tried to limit it recently because it’s just a destructive emotion isn’t it really, kind of like a distorted mimicry of joy.