Also forgot to mention that this new person is a relative of a friend of the manager (who also used to work there) and I can definitely see some favouritism going on there, it’s obvious. If you’re treated better, because your manager is biased, because they’ve heard good things about you through a friend who knows you, then of course you’re more likely to perform better in turn, and then a cycle of high trust/good performance between employer/employee is formed. It just doesn’t seem fair.
And then having the cheek to say ‘person X is really capable, and will do person Y’s job really well’ in front of person Y (me)… given that I struggled, plus the way I’ve been treated… I just don’t think that’s a professional or acceptable thing for a manager to say. It almost feels like an indirect way of saying ‘person X is better than person Y’. It made me feel really small.
I’m probably reading too much into it and I know I shouldn’t let it get to me. I should be happy since I’m not doing the role anymore, I’ve got what I wanted. I just had a feeling my manager would somehow manage to make me feel really shitty and low about it, in some way, and it’s worked.