Would you tell your mate if you knew his girlfriend was cheating on him?


#1

depends on closeness of mate i guess but what if you 100% knew? is it right to interfere or should you give her the chance to tell him?

and what if she doesn’t fess up should you say summat then?


#2

Sounds like one of those plots in EastEnders where two characters have the same conversation every episode for weeks.


#3

that’s what i said!


#4

Yeah, probably.


#5

Yes. No brainer for me.


#6

Depends. Am I the person she’s cheating on him with?


#7

Come on, let’s try and keep this realistic.


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#8

Dunno really.

I found out that one of my atds was cheating on his wife with someone I used to live with and I confronted him about it, if that helps.


#9

Depends. I told an ATD and she made excuses for him and didn’t break up with him until several months later. I think both of us would have been better off with me saying nothing.

Got to judge the person and the relationship first innit.


#10

I’d tell him even if she wasn’t!
Can’t be too careful


#11

Ooof. Is there a new thread for cataloging when people have done other people there?


#12

Let’s keep it realistic


#13

gonna have to go with…

depends


#14

i’d give her an oppurntunity to tell him before i did within a time frame of say a day tops


#15

this is a situation completely fraught with danger - if it’s one you’re currently in then you have my deepest sympathies


#16

yeah same here. I’d confront her first.


#17

that could work

but equally it could go horribly, horribly wrong

interfering in other people’s relationships is almost always a path to disaster


#18

Cheating is almost always a path to disaster.


#19

well actually I didn’t discover it another mate did and he came to me with this quandary so I came to you guys. and now the quandary has spread so we are all complicit in a sense.


#20

I mean

what if she denies it?
What if she turns on you to your mate and forces a wedge between you? Accuses you of trying to split them up?
What if she’s just having a fling and in that fling realises that she really actually loves your mate & goes back to him but due to the fall out of the interference they break up or she’s pressured to pick a side?
What if your mate & her have a secret agreement that they’re not monogamous?
What if you find out something about their relationship or about your friend that you really don’t want to know?

there’s a lot of maelstrom in opening that Pandora’s box